Even though society says we’re supposed to be “tough”, lots of men become completely terrified at the prospect of something as simple as asking for what we want in bed. Whether or not your partner actually speaks up about it, these are some things he’s probably aching for you to do in the bedroom:
Being the little spoon The little spoon is the vastly superior spoon. Your arm doesn’t get crushed, and you don’t have to worry about awkwardly putting it above your head or behind you. We like to feel wrapped up and snuggled, too, so after the deed is done, feel free to take our backs whenever you’d like.
Being told what to do It’s assumed that guys will take the lead in the bedroom, which is pretty fair – taking the lead makes us feel more manly. However, it’s nice to be led sometimes. Frankly, it’s a bit easier when someone else decides what to do — it lets us sit back and just enjoy you, which is pretty awesome because we love what you’ve got.
Being teased We tend to be the teasers rather than the teased until the last layer of clothing comes off. But sometimes, it’s nice when the other person is the one controlling the pace and driving you a little crazy with anticipation. Even if we’re begging you to just get down to business, it’s fun to have that in-between time that makes it almost impossible for us to keep our hands off you.
Handjobs What can we say? It takes us back to the (slightly) more innocent days of pre-penetration sex. Also, lube comes in so many variations now! We should probably try them all.
Not being the one to initiate sex We don’t always want to be the ones to initiate. First off, it’s easy to feel like you’re always asking for sex, which isn’t a great feeling. It’s also nice to know that you get in the mood sometimes without us warming you up. Finally, it’s a big responsibility to take care of a couple’s entire sex life. Initiating sex helps us share the load.
Trying taboo things Many of us are into some kinky stuff, and we know that you are, too. So if you want to try something new out, tell us! Chances are we’ve already fantasized about doing it with you, but haven’t had the courage to directly ask for it.
Direct communication We’re not mind readers — there’s plenty of unspoken communication that goes directly over our heads. So tell us what you want, because we really truly do want to please you! We just don’t really know how unless you tell us. Better yet, show us! We love demos.
Your (real) orgasm Can you please not fake it? It gives us false information to work with (“She came like this last time, so I’ll do the same thing again!”) Plus, we want you to enjoy sex too – if you didn’t quite cross the finish line, let us know and we’ll try again (in a few minutes). It’s also just plan patronizing and a little disrespectful. We can handle the truth, we swear!
Shaving your legs I know, I know. If a guy asks you to shave your legs or worse, gets mad when you don’t, he’s probably a douche. After all, you don’t ask him to shave his body hair, so where did he get the idea that he has the right to do the same to you? That said, there’s something so wonderfully silky smooth about shaved legs. So no, we won’t ask. But we do love the gesture, especially when our bodies are all tangled up together.
Confidence A woman who knows exactly what she wants in bed is undeniably hot no matter what she looks like. Plus, how are we supposed to know what you want if you don’t even know? There are few things sexier than a woman who takes off her clothes with a mission on her mind, and admittedly, it makes things a lot easier for us.
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