There’s bad sex, which sometimes happens despite your best efforts, and then there’s a bad sexual match overall. The latter is so much worse to have to deal with and could seriously screw up your relationship. How do you know you’re saddled with the wrong dude in the sack? Here are signs he’s just not worth taking to the bedroom again:
He only cares about his pleasure. It’s all about his sexual satisfaction and how he’ll reach orgasm. In fact, he usually comes before you during sex and doesn’t even continue pleasuring you so you can climax! Um, did you forget something, dude? This is not only selfish, it’s rude as hell.
He doesn’t return the favor. You’re eager to get down and give him a blow job or hand job but he never returns the favor. He tricks you into being affectionate and touching you lots beforehand, making you think that he’s going to hook you up with some extra special oral action… but then he never does. Talk about being left unsatisfied.
You can’t talk to him about sex. If the bad sex is happening with the guy you’re dating on more than a casual basis, you know that you have to talk to him about it. The only problem is that it’s a really awkward conversation to have and you know that he either won’t listen or he’ll get upset about what you’re saying. If you can’t talk about sex with your partner, then the problem might be your partner!
He thinks he’s amazing in the sack. This guy’s got an ego the size of Asia. He’s always harping on about how good he is in the bedroom and how he’ll be giving you such amazing pleasure. Sometimes he even uses this technique as a kind of dirty talk. It’s almost like he’s turning HIMSELF on because he’s definitely not arousing you.
He’s not open to new things. Sometimes you get your partner to try something new in the bedroom, but he screws it up. He might moan the whole way through it or think your new sex toy is stupid. Ugh. Talk about killing the mood. Where’s the fun in having sex with a guy who’s vanilla ice cream every day when you want the chocolate fudge with sprinkles every now and then?
He scores an “F” in foreplay. This guy probably doesn’t know what the word “foreplay” means because he never does it much. He’s too keen to rush into the main act of sex, which totally neglects how much pleasure there is to gain from foreplay. Sometimes it’s better than the sex, but he wouldn’t know or he just doesn’t care. Thanks for cutting out such a huge part of sexual pleasure, loser.
He doesn’t touch you after sex. It’s not just foreplay that’s important, but also what happens after the sex. If he doesn’t touch or kiss you, it can feel weird and like there’s no emotional component to the sex. Can you say bitterly cold? Come on, there are so many other ways to score intimacy than just to do each other. FFS.
He doesn’t want to go down on you. He might say that he doesn’t enjoy giving oral sex or he just doesn’t feel like it (for the 10th time in a row), but it’s not good enough. If he won’t go down on you but you’re going down on him, then you shouldn’t be with him because it’s unfair and he’s an a**hole. It’s as simple as that.
He doesn’t listen. During sex, he totally fails to read and respond to signs you give him. For instance, if you stop making a noise, he just continues with what he was doing instead of changing his routine a bit. FYI: going silent is sex talk for “I’m getting bored here.” He’s just not in tune with your body and doesn’t make sure you’re getting the most pleasure from the sex.
He tries things without asking first. Um, did you say that he could flip you around like that? No, you didn’t. He shouldn’t be arrogant or selfish in the sack. He should ask if he can do something before just jumping in. It’s common bedroom decency and if he can’t give you that, then he doesn’t deserve to be with you.
He doesn’t have the same sex drive as you. It’s not always possible to have exactly the same sex drive as your partner, but if you’re way out of sync, you run the risk of having unsatisfying sex. You don’t deserve to be left on ice when you’re horny because he’s not in the mood. If he’s got a really low or high sex drive compared to yours, then it could be a sign that you’re not as sexually compatible as you should be.
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