13 Texts That Are Basically Booty Calls In Disguise

You might think it’s sweet when a guy sends you a “romantic” message late at night, but if you read between the lines, you might find that his intentions aren’t as pure as they seem. Be careful — these “cute” texts might actually be him trying to get you to come over for a quick booty call. Unless you just want to get your rocks off, you’re better off ignoring him.

Of course, knowing what he’s really after is sometimes easier said than done. He might disguise his text as a genuine check-in to see how you are when really, he’s hoping you’ll be up for a roll in the hay. Pay close attention — you don’t want to fall into his trap.

13 booty call texts you’ve probably received

1. “Hey, you still up?” This has become the classic booty call text. He’s hardly making any real effort to chat with you. He’s going straight for the jugular because he’s lazy AF, hoping you’re awake so you guys can sext or hook up IRL.
2. “Know it’s late, but wanna come over?” The conversation was fun and flirty, but then he moved in for the kill by asking you to go to his place. It’s after midnight — of course it’s late. Go get a booty call somewhere else!
3. “Are you home?” Perhaps you hung out with him and other friends earlier, but he isn’t done with you for the night. By sending you this message to check that you got home, he’s hoping to end the evening with a little sexy nightcap back at your place.
4. “This pic made me think of you.” The pic is something subtly sexual, like a picture of two people kissing with a cheesy quote. It might be seen as romantic, but the only reason he’s sending this is that he’s too lazy to make an effort and he’s hoping if he comes across as vaguely romantic, you’ll agree to have sex with him.
5. “Not in the mood to party. Want to chill with you instead.” Sure you do. Although the “chill” part is basically being in bed together. You might feel flattered that he would rather be alone with you than go out, but it could be a convenient, last-minute change to his plans.
6. “I’m in your neck of the woods.” If this isn’t one of the most cliche booty call texts, I don’t know what is. He sends this at two in the morning because he’s drunk out of his mind and hoping he can crash in your bed. So now you’re supposed to get up and open the door for him even though the loser is creeping out of the woodwork after ages of not being in touch? Ugh. He can forget it.
7. “Let’s go for a really early breakfast.” Yeah, at four in the morning. How romantic, right? No, it’s not romantic. He’s hoping to squeeze in a booty call after his long night out and maybe you can grab some leftover pizza from his fridge afterward for breakfast if you’re hungry. Classy dude.
8. “Been thinking about you all day.” Yes, this type of message is thoughtful and romantic, but if he’s sending it late at night, it could very well be an attempt to impress you so he can move in for the booty call. I mean, if he was thinking about you so much, why didn’t he let you know earlier instead of in the wee hours?
9. “Want company?” He sends you this after you’ve been having a light conversation and he asks what you were doing. You mentioned you were watching a movie and bam: he suggests coming over. You add that you’re watching “The Notebook”, and he says it’s his favorite movie. It’s amazing what BS guys will say just to score.
10. “Just saw your Instagram/Twitter/Facebook post.” You had posted something interesting on social media, and now he’s using that as an icebreaker at three in the morning. He’s not really keen to discuss it. He just wants you to feel that he’s paying attention and interested so you’ll invite him over or share other, more revealing pics during a sexting session.
11. “I can’t stop thinking about you in that hot dress…” He brings this up late at night to romance you, but only because he’s horny AF. Sure, he might be thinking of you in your gorgeous LBD that highlighted your best physical assets, but not because he’s hoping you’ll wear it to your next date. He wants to use it to get off. Period.
12. “I regret that we didn’t get together.” Ah, the clever message making you think you’re the one that got away. When really, it’s just that he’s feeling nostalgic thanks to the alcohol he’s consumed or he’s running out of ways to get women to respond to his late-night messages because they can see he’s booty-texting from a mile away. 
13. “Can I ask you something?” He sends you this out of the blue, making you think that he wants to have a deep conversation. The truth is that he probably has nothing important to ask you, other than if you’d be so kind to accept his penis pics. He just wants attention. If he was really interested in having a soulful conversation, he wouldn’t need to do it so late when he’s bored and he gets horny.

How to respond to a booty call

When a guy texts you what is clearly a booty call, you might be unsure how to respond (if at all). This situation can elicit a variety of emotions: amusement, annoyance, flattery, or maybe even a hint of temptation. So, how should you navigate this tricky terrain? Let’s break it down.

1. Reflect on what you actually want. Before you even think about replying, take a moment to check in with yourself. What do you want out of the interaction? If you’re genuinely interested and feel that it’s the right choice for you, that’s okay! If you’re not into it or it doesn’t align with what you’re currently seeking, that’s perfectly fine too. Be honest with yourself about your feelings and desires.
2. Avoid impulse replies. It’s easy to respond on a whim, especially when emotions are running high. Whether you’re excited, irritated, or indifferent, give it a minute. Maybe even ten. Your response will be more thought-out and authentic if you’re not rushing.
3. Be direct and firm. If you’re not interested, it’s okay to be clear about it. A simple, “Hey! I’m good, thanks for reaching out, but I’m not available.” will do. If you want to add a bit more, you can go with, “Hope you’re doing well!” to keep things light and civil.
4. Know that it’s okay not to respond. Sometimes, no response is a response in itself. If you feel like it’s not even worth your time or energy, it’s entirely your choice to leave it on read.
5. Stay safe if you do decide to go through with it. If you decide to meet up, always prioritize your safety. Let a friend know where you’ll be, meet in a public place if you’re not very familiar with the guy, and always trust your gut. Obviously, if it’s an ex or a guy you know well, this is less of an issue. However, in either case, make sure you use protection.
6. Set boundaries. If you do go through with it, remember that you can set the tone and the boundaries. If there are things you’re not comfortable with, speak up. Mutual respect should always be at the forefront.
7. Remember your worth. Don’t let anyone make you feel like an option or a last resort. You deserve to be treated with respect and consideration. If someone can’t offer that, they might not be worth your time.

At the end of the day, how you handle a booty call text is up to you. Trust your instincts, prioritize your well-being, and remember that you’re in control of the situation. Whatever you decide, do it for you.