Falling in love is easy, especially when you finally meet a guy who seems like everything you’ve ever wanted — but things get complicated when you find out maybe he isn’t all he seemed at first. Sure, you can’t help who you have feelings for, but if you know he’s not good for you, you need to shut your feelings down ASAP. Here’s how:
- Cut off all forms of communication. Unfollow, unfriend, and block him from your life online and offline. Make it impossible for him to get in touch if he decides to try and get you back. Do everything in your power to make the goodbyes permanent and irrevocable.
- Stay busy as hell. Keep yourself occupied with anything and everything. Don’t give yourself too much time to think and get caught up in wallowing. Get your ass out of your bed and find things worthy of your time. Keep your body moving and your mind thinking of anything except him.
- Lean on your BFFs. Nobody can comfort you quite like your BFFs can, so hit them up for a much needed girls’ night. They’ll support you unconditionally and drop some serious pearls of wisdom to help put things in perspective. If all else fails, they’ll get your mind off him altogether, which can’t be a bad thing.
- Skip the pity party. Just because things ended between you doesn’t mean you have to drink yourself to death and live a miserable life. You’re better than that. Sure, you should let yourself process the experience, but avoid throwing a pity party, because that won’t help anyone.
- Make “yes” a bigger part of your vocab. When was the last time you said yes to something just for the hell of it? While you definitely shouldn’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable or that you truly don’t want to, sometimes deciding to branch out a bit will expose you to new experiences and people you may never have discovered otherwise.
- Try to live in the moment.Put your damn phone off and pay attention to what’s right in front of you. Live in the present instead of focusing on the past.
- Forgive. While it’s important to forgive him for anything he may have done wrong, it’s important to show yourself the same forgiveness. You may have made some bad choices or wasted a bit of time, but cut yourself some slack so that you can actually move on and discover something even better.
- Accept the reality. You loved him and he loved you, but the relationship was all kinds of wrong. How can you feel safe and grow in such a terrible situation? Accept the relationship for what it was, appreciate the lessons you’ve learned from it, and understand that it wasn’t what was meant to be. Only then will you be able to move forward, and that’s ultimately what you want, right?
