“Bad Timing” In Relationships Is Just An Excuse

“Bad Timing” In Relationships Is Just An Excuse ©iStock/DrGrounds

If there’s one thing I hate, it’s when people blame a missed connection or relationship gone wrong on “bad timing.” There are some many legit excuses to not want to enter the crazy dating world – you need a break, you’ve just been hurt, you need some more Netflix time – but focusing on timing just isn’t one of them. Here’s why “bad timing” is just an excuse and has zero merit:

  1. You’re trying to control love. Guess what? Love doesn’t want to be controlled. Not by you, not by anyone. It happens when it wants to happen. If you claim you can’t date this person because of “bad timing” then you don’t really deserve love in the first place.
  2. You’re hiding behind this excuse. You make up a million excuses for why you absolutely must stay single. None of them make any sense and especially not when you blame the timing. Why do you think claiming it’s not the right time for you is a valid point? What are you really so afraid of?
  3. Your life is a work-in-progress. If you’re waiting for your life to magically become perfect so you can fall in love, you’ll be waiting forever and ever. You’ll never be amazing at everything and life is always changing. Just because you just got fired or are making a major career shift or are moving doesn’t mean you shouldn’t accept the fact that you’ve met an amazing guy.
  4. You might not actually feel anything. Sometimes you focus on how it’s not the right time to explore a connection because you don’t actually like this guy. It goes both ways – guys do that, too, and it sucks to be on the receiving end of that kind of speech. Be honest about how you feel and don’t just give a blanket excuse.
  5. Nothing stays the same. Just because you’re going through a rough time right now doesn’t means things will always be this crappy. In fact, they’re guaranteed to get better because that’s just how life works. Take a chance on love despite your circumstances.
  6. You could seriously miss out. What if this guy is really the one and you totally blew him off for no reason at all? It’s hard enough to date these days and it’s even harder to find someone you actually care about. Why would you let him go without even trying?
  7. Saying yes can brighten up a dark time. Your life might not be exactly where you want it to be right now, but that doesn’t mean you can’t go out and meet new people. If nothing else, it gives you something to look forward to and get excited about. Sometimes a new romantic prospect is just what you need when the timing seems off.
  8. You should never be a cliché. Enough said.
  9. It’s always a good time. When you think about it, if you meet someone awesome, that means it’s good timing, not bad. Isn’t it hard enough to meet these days? Isn’t this what we’re all waiting for?
  10. It’s just plain weird. If you use this excuse once, OK – but if you keep using it, it’s kind of strange. It’ll just confuse everyone who loves and cares about you. If you’re claiming that you want love but putting it out there that it’s always the wrong time, do you really mean it?
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.
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