Date night comes and where the hell is your guy? He’s late… again. You wait 20 minutes and then you get a text with some sad excuse and his apologies because he has to cancel. It’s probably not the first time he’s pulled this crap and it certainly won’t be the last because a man who doesn’t respect your time doesn’t respect you.
- Your time is just as important as his. You realize that, right? If you can make room for him in your undoubtedly hectic life, he should be willing to do the same. If he doesn’t, or expects you to be available when he can be bothered to fit you in, he doesn’t respect you or your time. You deserve better.
- Is what he’s doing really more important than keeping his plans with you? Maybe he legitimately did get held up at work or traffic was really bad, but if that’s happening every single time you’re supposed to meet up, you know it’s BS. If he’s constantly flaking on plans with you, it makes you wonder what he’s doing that’s so important or great. Probably not, but you shouldn’t waste any more of your time trying to find out.
- If he really likes you, he’ll make the time to see you. It’s honestly that simple. If a guy likes you then he won’t hesitate to put in the effort to coordinate your schedules. Every man has a life going on outside of their relationships (at least hopefully), but the men who have actual feelings for you will make it work no matter what. If he can’t make time to see you it’s because he doesn’t WANT to see you. It sounds harsh, but it’s true.
- You don’t have time to waste. That’s exactly what he thinks when he leaves you waiting, though. He doesn’t care if he wastes your time because he thinks you have all the time in the world to spare. He doesn’t respect that you have other things go on — better things than sitting around waiting for him. What a jerk.
- The problem is with him, not you. Stop blaming yourself for guys who are completely inconsiderate of your time. There’s nothing wrong with you; there’s something wrong with them — they’re jerks. If they’re not interested, they should tell you and if they are interested they should learn how to make an effort. The only thing you’re at fault for is letting him continue to disrespect you.
- A respectful man doesn’t leave texts unanswered. Men are fully aware that you’re expecting a reply. Sure, you should give him a little leeway because he does have other things in his life after all, but the benefit of the doubt only lasts so long. Sending a text takes less than a minute, and if he actually respects you, he won’t mind giving you a few minutes of his day.
- If he doesn’t respect you, you have to respect yourself enough to walk away. It might sound harsh, but at some point, you’re going to need to take the hint. Just because he doesn’t respect you doesn’t mean you should stop respecting yourself. Sometimes being smart in the game of love is all about being secure enough in yourself to walk away.
- If he can’t make time now, you’ll never be a priority. You think that he’ll change, but he won’t. If he doesn’t make you a priority at the beginning, you’ll never even make the list. He doesn’t make time because he doesn’t value you. In his mind, he can flake on you because you’re just not that important and you’ll be there waiting when he finally does come around. Do you really want to be with a guy who thinks like that and who values you so little?
- The best thing you can do is make it clear you have better things to do. Better things than wait around for him to cancel or wait days for a simple text back, that is. The more you feed into his time manipulation, the worse you’ll feel. If he knows he can push you around like that then he will. You’re too available and he’ll walk all over you because he can. Stop waiting around for guys who couldn’t care less and start living your life.
