You’ve probably been the recipient of at least one “U up?” text from a guy you were seeing, sorta seeing or would like to be seeing. Not only is it a poorly veiled request for a hookup, but it’s also disrespectful as hell and you deserve more. If you don’t want a guy to treat you like a booty call, it’s simple: don’t let him.
- Don’t make it so easy. Sure, you love sex as much as guys, but if you’re giving it away to someone you genuinely want to get to know, he might think he doesn’t have to put in that extra effort. If you want a guy to see you as more than a booty call, you’re going to have to withhold that booty and show him that you have way more to offer than just sex.
- Know your vibe. If you can pinpoint exactly what type of vibe you’re sending out, you can adjust said vibe to make sure that you’re not inadvertently letting guys think it’s okay to call you for just sex. After all, a guy isn’t going to booty call you unless he thinks he can. Side note — you may still get booty calls from the completely oblivious, overly confident guys which no amount of tips or tricks will work to ward them off. Refer to #9 in these cases.
- Don’t sext. Sexting is fun and all, but if all your interactions revolve around having sex or talking about having sex, that’s all the relationship is going to be. If you don’t want that, then you’ll have to save sexting for a more intimate affair.
- Know who you’re dealing with. If the guy in question has been giving off jerk signals, then there’s a good chance he’s a player. And you know what they do? They booty call you. Avoid the player, avoid the bootycall.
- Hang out without having sex. If every time you hang out you’re humping like animals, he’s going to get the idea that that’s all the relationship is and he’ll have no qualms about calling you whenever he wants it. Meet up for the occasional sex-free night out and he’ll get the hint that you’re not looking to be just another notch on his belt.
- Demand respect. The very minute a guy booty calls you is the moment you’ll know he’s not giving you the respect you deserve. Before it even happens, you need to draw the line. If he respects you, he won’t ever cross it; if he doesn’t, you’re better off without his mediocre loving anyway.
- Be straight up. If you’re the type of girl that hates those texts, then make it known. A guy who truly cares about you will respect your wishes and avoid calling on you at all hours of the night because you told him that you don’t play like that.
- Don’t answer. If nothing else works, ignore the douchebag, and not just past midnight. If you haven’t openly established the relationship ground rules, whether you’re serious or just sleeping together, there’s absolutely no reason for him to call on you for just sex.
- Tell them to GTFO. If someone is rudely calling you in the middle of the night for sex, then you have every right to rudely tell them to go screw themselves. The meaner, the better, because clearly these guys don’t care much about you, so you shouldn’t care about them.
- Be the caller. If you like sex, as most of us do, you may not have a problem with meeting up with a guy you’re into for just that. Instead of allowing him to treat you like you’re at his beck and call, hit him up first. He won’t say no and you’ll have control over when you two get down with the get down.
- Don’t give your number out to just anyone. When you go out and meet a hot guy at the bar or club, take his number instead. That way, if you want to contact him, you will and not the other way around.
