Dating sucks so much that it’s tempting to give up and just accept that you’re going to be alone for the rest of our lives, but that’s ridiculous. Once you figure out how to get AND keep the guy you want, dating is as easy as breathing. I’m not exactly the most attractive, intelligent and interesting lady in the crowd, but getting any guy to like me is a breeze. Here’s what I do:
Don’t show any interest at first. Guys love to chase, and if you’re an exciting, adventurous and independent woman, I bet you do too! Still, try not to show any deep interest when talking to a guy for the first time. Guys who know their worth will feel challenged by this and they’ll make you their “target”… except it’s actually you making them your target. Just don’t be rude or indifferent. You can still have a normal conversation with them without being flirty.
Show some interest, obviously, but don’t act like you’re crazy about him. If you don’t show even the slightest bit of interest after he’s put some effort into pursuing you, he’s probably going to move on and find someone else. No one wants to be chasing someone who has no plans of ever being caught. Reciprocate but don’t expose your crazy side yet (we all have one, don’t worry). Otherwise, he’s gonna think you’re obsessed and creepy. You want him to know that you’re interested but that you can still be without him. Again, guys like the challenge, whether they admit it or not.
Be confident but not arrogant or cocky. It’s hard for men to be attracted to insecure women. There’s just too much to deal with, and they’d rather not have to worry about the things they say or do when they’re around you. But this doesn’t mean you should be stuck-up— no one likes arrogance. You want to be strong and independent without him thinking you’re a spoiled brat.
Show you’re intelligent but don’t be a know-it-all. You know why a lot of decent men avoid overly attractive females? They think these ladies only rely on their looks to get men to like them. Sure, it helps when you’re beautiful, but if you want to be more than just a potential hookup, you have to show them that you’re intelligent and capable of holding an interesting conversation. Just don’t be a know-it-all or they’ll either be intimidated or totally put-off. Wait until he’s completely smitten before you start nerding out.
Casually show or talk about your flaws and weaknesses. You don’t have to go all out on this, but you can tell him little things, like how hard it is for you to get up in the morning or that you’re very forgetful. It makes you seem more human and authentic and less like a Barbie doll. Plus, when you show some of your weaknesses, his instinct to protect you is turned on, and we all know that men feel more manly when a woman seeks their protection.
Tell him about your dreams and passions. Notice how you light up and get happier when you talk about the things you’re passionate about? It’s not rocket science that people appear more attractive when they’re genuinely smiling and happy. Tell him about your hobbies and desires, no matter how weird they are. You’ll shine for any decent man that’s worth keeping.
Have an opinion and don’t be afraid to say it. Guys like it when you know what you like and what you don’t. They like it when you suggest where you should go or what you should eat. It proves that you’re independent and capable of figuring things out on your own. Men who have a lot of respect for women are easily attracted to women who take charge.
Smell good and try to look nice—duh. You can use a fragrant soap or wear very subtle perfume. And while you don’t need to put on 10 lbs of makeup, you have to put an effort into looking nice and tidy. It shows that you take good care of yourself. You’d expect the same of any guy you date, so while there’s no need to pull out the supermodel stops, wearing something you feel good in will make you look even better.
Don’t BS about anything. Whether it’s pretending to like sports or the type of music he listens to or pretending to be something you’re not, lying is a major turn-off. If you don’t like something, just be cool about it and know that it’s best to show genuine interest in the things he likes. If you get him to talk about the things he likes, he’s going to associate those good feelings with you. When he thinks of you later, he’s going to feel good things.
Genuinely compliment him. Everyone likes to be complimented on their looks, but the types of compliments that stick with us best are about our character and achievements. Compliment him on his morals, his taste in food or music, or his behavior.
Be busy sometimes. If you seem in-demand, he’s naturally going to think you’re worth A LOT. If he thinks you have other things to do and people are always wanting to hang out with you, he’s definitely going to want to make you notice him more.
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