I’ll Never Get To Say These Things To My Mom But If You Can, You Should

It wasn’t until I lost my mom that I realized how much I took her for granted. Yes, I told her I loved her often and tried to make time to see her even when my schedule got super busy, but after she died, I realized how half-hearted those efforts were. I’d do anything to turn back the clock so that I could show her just how much she meant to me and tell her so many things I was never able to. If you’re lucky enough to still have your mom, please don’t go another day without saying these things:

  1. Thank you for everything you do for me. It didn’t matter that I had long ago moved out of the house and embarked on my adult life — I was always my mom’s baby. If I needed anything, she was always there and more than happy to do anything she could to make sure I got it. I never stopped being her baby.
  2. Everything I am is because of you. Over the years, my mom instilled so many important values in me to make me a strong, intelligent, kind, thoughtful woman, just like her. She always encouraged me to be generous, to do whatever I could to help others, to respect everyone because of and not in spite of their differences — and that’s just the beginning. I wouldn’t be the woman I am today without her, that’s for sure.
  3. Nothing feels better than your hugs. Even when I was a teenager and was “too cool” to really want to be seen with my mom, I always secretly loved when she showered me with affection. Her hugs always made me feel so warm and loved and I’d do anything — literally anything — to have even one more of them.
  4. You’re the most amazing woman I’ve ever known. It took a while for me to see my mom as more than just a mother, but once I did, I was amazed at what an incredible woman I was lucky enough to have in my life. She was so beautiful, funny, inspiring, and all-around badass and I wish she knew just how much I aspire to even half the woman she was.
  5. I hope I’m able to be half the mother you are. When I start a family, I’ll raise my children with the dedication and love that she raised me with, and if I can do even half as good of a job as her, I’ll know I’ve done well as a parent. She was the true definition of selfless and while I don’t think I’ll ever be able to live up to her high standards, I’ll never stop trying.
  6. I’m sorry for all the crap I put you through. I know I went through difficult years when having patience with me and continuing to love me probably felt near impossible, but she never gave up on me and always kept the faith that I would eventually get back on the right track and get where I need to be. I’ll never be able to thank her for never wavering during those tough times, but I’ll always be grateful.
  7. I’m so proud to be your daughter. I hit the jackpot with my mom and I don’t know what I did to deserve her. While I lost her too soon, part of her will live on in me forever and I hope she’s looking down from heaven and feeling proud of me too.
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