Dating is an exhausting process, but what’s even more tiring is having to constantly field questions about why I’m single. Ugh, enough already. It’s not like I’m not out there trying to meet a great guy that I could possibly form a real relationship with because I am. The reason I’m single is pretty simple — I don’t want to end up with a loser.
- I have standards and I won’t lower them for anyone. I’ve dealt with a lot of jerks who didn’t know how to treat me right and it was a complete waste of my time and energy. I won’t continue a relationship with anyone, friends or boyfriends, who don’t treat me with the same courtesy I give them. It’s called self-respect.
- I’ve cried enough over guys and I’m done with it. I’ve spent plenty of time crying over crappy relationships with guys who were jerks to me and it’s made me realize that I have the power to control the negativity I let into my life. I avoid those tears now by bypassing the types of guys who cause them altogether. It’s been a happy revelation.
- I refuse to accept bad behavior. I’ve screwed myself over in the past by allowing guys to get away with crappy behavior and it was pathetic as hell. I used to be someone who made excuses for a guy’s crap, thinking that maybe he just had a bad day or that I said or did something wrong, but not anymore. When I used to let crap slide, it only sent the message that I was willing to be a doormat. I’m not an idiot anymore — I’ve seen the light.
- I know what I want and I won’t settle. I know exactly the type of guy I’m looking for and when he finally makes his way into my life, I’ll know it. In the meantime, I’ll continue to avoid and dismiss the losers and I won’t feel an ounce of remorse about it. I’m not sorry for knowing what I’m worth and I certainly won’t compromise on it.
- I’m not that desperate for a relationship. I don’t have a problem with being single. Sure, it can get lonely at times, but the temporary feelings of loneliness are infinitely better than being in a relationship with a guy who makes me miserable, constantly anxious and upset. I’m doing just fine rolling solo, thanks.
- There are good guys out there too and I’m determined to find one. I’ve met a lot of great guys on my journey to find love, and even if those encounters didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean that I should just settle for some loser who isn’t good to me. What kind of messed up logic is that? I want a great relationship that makes me truly happy, not some filler guy who isn’t exactly what I want.
- I have the patience to wait for my unicorn. I’ve been single for long enough that I know I can brave plenty more years doing exactly what I’m doing. As great as it would be to find love, it’s not the only thing I’m doing with my life. In the absence of a relationship, I’ve got a ton of other things going for me, like the career I’m slaying, the home I’m building and the skills I’m learning. Realistically, I’m just building myself to be an even more amazing girlfriend to the lucky SOB who finally earns the right to my heart.
- I want a guy who puts in as much effort as I do. I’ve put a lot of time and energy into the guys I’ve dated in big and small ways. I’ll stock their favorite beer in my fridge, cook them nice meals, send them home with lunches for work, pick up tickets to their favorite band or movie — I’m a hell of a catch, but the guy I end up with needs to be one too. I’m no longer going out of my way for guys who aren’t on my level and don’t appreciate me, end of.
- I love myself enough to know better. I’ve become the woman I am by dealing with one too many losers over the years. It’s not only made me stronger, it’s helped open my eyes to my worth as a person. I no longer blame myself and I no longer live in a place of self-pity. I love who I am and I know I have something truly amazing to offer a man who deserves it.
