Shouldn’t you know if the person you’re dating is on the same page as you before you’re together for a year? Skip the outdated advice about playing it cool and go ahead and ask these important relationship questions before anything gets too serious. Otherwise, you’re going into a relationship completely blind.
Do you want kids? Yes, it needs to be asked early. Whether you want kids or not, this is a dealbreaker for many couples. Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t want what you want, because they’re not likely to change their mind. Find out now so you don’t have the kid argument later.
Do you want a future together? Nothing pisses me off more than wasting time dating someone, only to find out they never wanted anything more than a casual relationship. Being together for a year or two doesn’t mean the person you’re with wants a future together, so it’s worth clarifying.
What things won’t you compromise on? Some people have ridiculous standards and refuse to compromise. For instance, what if your partner would dump you if you gained 20 pounds? Maybe they’re only willing to do five sex positions or hate oral. Whatever it is, learn their limits now and see if those are dealbreakers for you.
Will your parents and friends be a problem? Usually this isn’t a question you think about until a parent or friend starts causing problems. Shouldn’t you know whether the person you’re dating would stand up for you? If their mom or best friend hates you, would they stay with you or leave?
What are your top priorities? I shouldn’t have to spell it out, but if you’re not one of those priorities, don’t even waste your time. You, family, friends, a career, a dream — those are all great priorities. Most importantly, see if their priorities line up with yours.
What are your views on women? Dating you doesn’t mean a guy respects women. He could just want a regular booty call. If he doesn’t see you as equal or thinks barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen is your role, find out early so you can dump him if his views are more 1800s than 2000s.
How important is sex to you? Differences in sex drive or sexual preferences can tear a relationship apart. It’s not a comfortable question to ask, but it’s necessary. Ask them how important it is, how often they have to have it and what things they definitely would never do.
What are your religious and political views? Ask these relationship questions as early as the second date. If you can’t agree on religion and politics, the relationship is probably doomed anyway. Anyone who’s too passionate about either isn’t going to just agree to disagree.
Do independent women scare you? Sometimes it’s hard to see how independent you are until you’ve been together with someone for a few months. Find out now if your independent nature could scare your partner off. It kind of goes hand in hand with respecting women.
What do you want from your own life? Do you really want to date a man-child? No. You’re a grown-ass woman who has better things to do than raise the guy you’re dating. Ask about their goals and dreams and how they plan to achieve those goals. It’s a good way to see if the person is a hot mess or actually has their life together.
What are your dealbreakers? Something as simple as being a Democrat over Republican could be a dealbreaker. Ask this question right now, even on a first date. What if you love meat, but your date is a vegan? Ordering steak in front of them could be the ultimate deal breaker.
How do you handle fights? Would your partner throw things, yell or cool off and then talk about it? Everyone’s fighting style is different. Make sure their’s is something you can handle. You definitely don’t want someone who’ll run over the first major fight.
What are your prejudices? It’s another question you’d probably rather die than ask, especially early on. Still, wouldn’t you like to know if you’re dating an a**hole that hates specific genders, races or nationalities?
How is your financial situation? No one really wants to ask or be asked this question. It’s also the only question you can wait on, at least a little while. The moment things start to get serious, it’s time to ask. After all, if you’re looking at a future together, you need to know if you’re both financially able to support each other and buy things like a house.
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