It doesn’t matter if you’re the dumper or the dumpee, there’s no getting around that terrible, post-breakup feeling. The good thing is that with a little help from your BFFs and some time to reflect, you’re back to being the confident, independent woman you once were—that is, until your ex tries to get back in touch. If he’s texting you any of these things, you need to block him ASAP so you can keep living your amazing life without him:
- The Drunk Text If he’s texting you only when he’s had a drink too many with his friends, he’s clearly not ready to restart an actual relationship. He’s either looking for something (usually sex) or he’s way beyond rational thought and has no clue what he’s doing. Either way, he’s not worth your time. If you’re going to move on to bigger, better things, you need to cut your drunk ex out of your life and block him! You don’t want a guy who only thinks about you when he’s completely drunk to have any influence on your life.
- The Text That’s Meant To Make You Jealous So you’ve moved on and apparently so has he… or at least that’s what he’s desperate to prove to you. If he’s sending you pictures of him and his new girl or any texts meant to brag that he’s moved on, block him. You don’t need that kind of childish behavior in your life. Clearly, he’s far from over your relationship and just because he can’t move on doesn’t mean you can’t. You’re a grown woman, and if he needs to stoop down to teenage levels to try to show that his life is so much better without you, do it the adult way and cut him out of your life.
- The Begging Text No one likes a beggar. If he’s texting you paragraphs about how he messed up and begging for one more chance, don’t answer. Once a relationship is over, it should be over. Don’t be one of those girls who go back to a toxic relationship just because he said please. You’re so much better than that and no amount of groveling will change what happened between you. If he truly was sorry, maybe he wouldn’t have messed up in the first place.
- The “Wrong Person” Text Honestly, it’s not that hard to make sure you’re texting the right person. If he’s shooting you texts “meant for someone else,” he’s just looking for attention. These texts are often followed by a “so, since we’re talking… how are you?” Yeah, nice try, bud. If he doesn’t have enough nerve to actually try to start a conversation with you without pulling a dumb high school trick, he’s not worth your time or even a text back.
- The Angry Text You know the type of text I’m talking about—long, ranting, swear-filled texts (in all caps, of course) blaming you for everything that went wrong as if he was a bystander in your breakup instead of the other person involved. If he’s calling you names or saying he never loved you, you need to distance yourself even further from him. Clearly, he’s not stable and not someone you want to be in a relationship with anyway. The sooner you can remove yourself from this hot-headed dude, the sooner you can relax and enjoy your stress-free life.
- The “Buddy Buddy” Text Despite what many people may hope, it’s nearly impossible to become friends with an ex. When he starts sending you texts asking to “just hang out” or “grab a bite to eat,” trust me, that’s not what he really wants. He’s realized that you were the best thing he ever had and is trying to come crawling back. Or, even worse, he’s trying to turn a friends’ night out into a one-night stand. Neither option is good, so block him before the damage is done.
- The “I Still Love You” Text Breakups happen for a reason. Whether it’s because he cheated or if there’s simply no more love in the relationship, him confessing his love post-breakup is awkward, annoying, and just makes your life more difficult. If he really did love you, he would’ve shown it a little more in the relationship instead of waiting until things were beyond repair. He’s desperate and is willing to do anything for you back but it’s too little, too late and will only slow you down in your quest for someone who will actually love and appreciate you all the time, not just after they’ve been dumped.
- The Repeat Texter If he’s sending you text after text after text without giving you a second to breathe, he’s leaving you no choice. If the only break you’ll get from him will come from blocking him, so be it. This type of ex, like the beggar, isn’t letting you have the time away from him that you need in order to move on. Apparently, he thinks in order to win you back, he must constantly text you. Unfortunately for him, this is extremely annoying and will only get him blocked.
- The Creepy Stalker Text If he’s asking who you’re with, what you’re doing, or is just generally way too invested in your life even after you guys broke up, he’s borderline stalkerish and you need to block him before he crosses that line. He’s no longer a part of your life and if he’s continuously keeping tabs on you, he’s a creep. If it’s simply texting and nothing more, stick with blocking him. If it escalates to actual stalking, contact the cops ASAP!
- The Text After A Year Of Being Over No matter what the texts say, any text after a year of not being an item anymore is very creepy. It shows that he’s clearly not over you and the only way to stop this obsession is to cut off his connection to you. He’s thriving off the memories from a long-dead relationship and is trying to drag you back into that ancient history. Despite him being obsessed with the past, you need to focus on the future, which means cutting off any loose ends from old relationships.
