It’s painful to make the final cut after a breakup with a guy, but you just have to rip the bandaid off sometimes. After all, you have so much life to live and your ex doesn’t deserve to be part of it. It’s time to say goodbye and move onto to everything the amazing world has in store for you.
- STOP ASKING WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN. The point is, what could’ve been is never going to happen. You can dream up scenarios in your head of what things would be like if it all worked out but obviously your lives were going different directions and that’s okay. If you’re really being honest, you know that thinking that way distracts you from the here-and-now and your real life adventures that WILL work out.
- THERE’S NOTHING LEFT TO FIGURE OUT. It’s all said and done—your relationship is in the past now. You don’t need to save his number just in case things change because chances are, they aren’t going to. You need to get closure for your own sanity and wash your hands of him. It’s time to accept that you weren’t meant to be and it’s all for the best.
- HE’S PROBABLY ALREADY MOVED ON. It’s pretty common knowledge that guys usually move on faster than girls. Why waste your valuable time thinking about him when he’s clearly not doing the same? You’re only going to make it harder for yourself to let things go. If you really care about him, let him go to get on with his life because he’s probably already made that decision for himself. You need to give yourself permission to move on too.
- He’s Not Worth Pining Over. You only get so much time in this life, so why waste a single moment on something that no longer has value in your life? Think about what you could be putting that energy into instead of dragging around things from your past. You’ve got so much potential to glow up and do amazing things, so don’t let something so silly as an ex-boyfriend keep you from that.
- YOU’RE PASSING COOL GUYS by ALL THE TIME. I know saying there are other fish in the sea is the last thing you want to hear but seriously—they’re out there. You’re probably walking right past amazing guys every day who you could totally hit it off with but you’re missing them because you’re hung up on the fish that got away. So you loved and lost—I know it hurts, but you’ll absolutely get the chance to love again.
- DON’T TORTURE YOURSELF WITH OLD MEMORIES. Again, leave the past in the past. Obsessively remembering all of your time together will only make your heart hurt worse—don’t do that to yourself. Of course you guys had good times together but you still had your reasons to break things off. You’ll have more good times with someone truly meant for you and that’ll be SO much better than dwelling on those old times.
- YOU HAVE TO DO WHAT’S BEST FOR YOU. Sometimes you just have to push all of your feelings to the back of your mind to do the right thing for yourself. Cutting him off for good is one of those really hard things to do but you’re loving yourself by doing it. You deserve better, so don’t let your mind trick you into thinking you can’t do what you need to do to help yourself move forward.
- DON’T LEAVE THAT DOOR OPEN FOR WHEN YOU’RE LONELY. Even when you’re enjoying your new singleness and having a great time starting fresh, you’re going to feel lonely from time to time. Don’t leave that door open to text him when you’re vulnerable. It’s not fair to yourself or him to have him on call for when you just can’t deal. Stop opening old wounds and pop a bottle of wine open instead of your messages.
- EVERYTHING REALLY DOES HAPPEN FOR A REASON. Even when it’s hard to see how everything is going to work out, you have to believe that everything happens for a reason. If you were meant to end up with that guy, you would still be with him. Your life, where you’re at in this moment, is meant to be. Live in the moment and take comfort in the fact that your adventure hasn’t ended—it’s actually just beginning.
- THERE’S A LOT OF LIFE BEYOND THE PAST. There’s nothing more freeing than being able to let go of the past and live for today. Yes, you’ll never be able to relive those old memories and you’re going to feel nostalgic from time to time, but there’s SO much more life in front of you than there is behind. It’s time to make a statement to yourself that you’re taking that leap into your next adventure and leaving behind the things that weren’t meant to come with you.
