You Want To Be A Catch? Here’s How To Act Like One

Plenty of women want to be the type that guys want, but just who is that woman? What does it take to be the type that guys don’t just want to have sex with but want to settle down and have actual relationships with? If you want to be a catch, you need to start acting like one by doing these things:

  1. Stop chasing guys. There’s such a thing as being too available, so take a break from going after guys, especially ones that require too much work. If you obsessively go after men, you’ll start to look desperate. Instead of hunting them down, concentrate on building an amazing life all on your own and let men come to you. After all, no one can catch you if you’re not willing to be chased.
  2. Know exactly what you deserve. Do you really believe that you deserve a good man? Are you worthy of true love? Those questions should be easy to answer, and that answer should be yes. Once you realize that you’re worthy of real love and deserve to be treated right, that’s when you’ll start being the amazing catch you’re meant to be. Why? Because men want women who are confident in who they are and what they deserve. Weak women get walked all over, but strong women get the happy ending they want.
  3. Don’t base your self-worth on your relationship status. Your life doesn’t mean any less when you’re single than it does when you’re in a relationship, so stop basing your self-worth on whether or not you have romance in your life. Your life has meaning regardless of whether or not you’re sleeping alone. The more you base your worth on if a man’s attention, the more power you give him to break you.
  4. Never stop making yourself a priority. You should never love a guy more than you love yourself. Don’t make his needs a priority over yours— yours are important as his, as is your happiness. Just remember, if you stop making yourself a priority, so will he—and then who will look out for what you need?
  5. Don’t compromise who you are. You should never have to change yourself for a guy. If you’re true to yourself and he’s the right guy for you, he’ll love you as is, no alterations necessary. You’re not a work in progress, you’re a finished masterpiece. Don’t ever try to be the girl you think he wants. If his love is real then he won’t want anything other than the real you.
  6. Find happiness on your own. If you want to be a catch, you need to stop needing a guy. What you have to realize is that no man can make you happy. If you’re unhappy with your life on your own, you’ll be unhappy with him too. Happiness comes from within, so stop putting pressure on guys to fix your unhappiness and start trying to find happiness all by yourself.
  7. Love yourself exactly the way you are. If you want to be a catch, confidence is everything. That’s why you need to learn to love the woman in the mirror inside and out. Stop thinking that you’re damaged. Everyone has flaws, including you, but that’s not a bad thing. It’s your flaws that make you unique. So stop judging yourself and just accept yourself for who you are.
  8. Be more than just a girl meant for some guy. There’s more to your life than your relationship to the opposite sex. So make sure you’re paying attention to the rest of your life as well. Needy women aren’t the kind of catches guys are looking for. If you want to be a real catch, have more priorities than the man in your life. You’re a hell of a lot more than some man’s future trophy wife.
  9. Don’t settle for anything less than true love. If you don’t feel a spark with someone, don’t be afraid to move on. Rejection is way less cruel than leading some poor unsuspecting guy on. Being a catch and knowing you’re one aren’t the same as being conceited. No one wants to date a narcissist, so be kind to single men even when you’re not interested. You’d expect the same, wouldn’t you?
  10. Never be afraid to love a good man. Being passionate about the man you love has everything to do with being a catch. Men want women who put as much effort into a relationship as they do. If he falls hard for you, don’t be afraid to fall right back. Love is a two-way street and a catch like you deserves one hell of a catch too.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.
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