We’ve all experienced times when we cringe at the idea of being naked in front of another person. Feeling self-conscious about your body can have a real impact on your love life, but it doesn’t have to. You still deserve to enjoy making love and feel confident in bed, even if you don’t have the perfect body. What’s perfect, anyway?
- Showcase the good stuff and hide the rest If you’re self-conscious about your stomach, then buy lingerie that covers your stomach. When the part you’re worried about most is covered, you can focus your attention on having fun.
- Distract yourself with something new. Trying something new, like introducing a new toy or trying a new position, can distract you. You’ll be too busy enjoying that to even think about what your body looks like, which is how it should be.
- Set some boundaries. If you’re be so worried about how jiggly your ass is every time he slaps it, tell him! Ass slapping or other forms of touching can be off-limits. Your body, your rules. If he’s a good partner, he’ll want you to feel as comfortable as possible.
- Keep your head in the game. When you feel your mind wandering or you start to get nervous, take a deep breath and try to focus on what’s happening right in front of you and the pleasure you’re experience. You want an orgasm, right? You’re never going to get it if you’re thinking about the stretchmarks on your boobs (which he probably hasn’t even noticed, anyway).
- Remember that if he’s making love with you, he likes you. Unless you do something totally disgusting, like vomit all over him, odds are he’s going to enjoy the experience. Plus, you’re
making love… which means he obviously finds you attractive. - Only making love with people who love and respect your body. If your boyfriend is belittling you over your body, you need a new boyfriend. You may not have the same figure you once did, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t still hot as hell.
- Do what you need to do to get yourself in the mood. Maybe it’s just going to take a little extra prep to get you in the mood — light some candles, turn on some music, go all out with your makeup and hair, engage in a little extra foreplay. It’s totally OK if you need a little help getting into the right frame of mind.
- Find attractive role models. We live in the Internet era, which means you can find some hot images of pretty much any body type. Check out other hot women your size who are totally killing it in the hot department. This is a nice reminder that being hot comes in all shapes and sizes.
- Say “Screw it” and love your body as-is.  Even if you don’t fit society’s ridiculous beauty standard, your body is still incredible. You deserve love and acceptance where you are right now. Screw unrealistic beauty standards! You do you, girl!
