17 F*cks You Stop Giving When You’re A Grown Woman

At some point, you reach an age where you can’t possibly, even if you tried, give any less of a f*ck. It’s not that you’ve become a cantankerous bitch in your older years, but just that you’ve lived long enough to be over pretty much everything. Are you to that point in your life? Have you been fortunate enough to have reached the ultimate status of having no more f*cks to give? If so, then you’ve probably stopped doing these things.

Giving a f*ck about guys who aren’t into you You used to get crazy obsessed with guys, particularly ones who didn’t return your affections. It would literally overtake your life to the point that you couldn’t think of anything else. Not anymore! If some dude is dumb enough to not realize what a catch you are, that’s his loss. Peace out, a-hole!

Giving a f*ck about maintaining the status quo For so long, you’re taught to do whatever it takes to fit in. Live a conventional life. Wear the right things, say the right things, do the right things, think the right things. Anything to keep the status quo going. However, once you become a grown-ass woman, you realize the value of being your weird, wonderful, definitely not “normal” self.

Giving a f*ck about filtering your Instagram selfies That’s what you’re supposed to do to make sure your followers don’t know you have period pimples or see the dark circles under your eyes, right? Wrong. F*ck Instagram filters and the pressure to seem 100% perfect when no one is. In fact, in your eyes, the more natural and unflattering the selfie, the better.

Giving a f*ck about coming on too strong When going out with someone for the first time, you used to always mind your Ps and Qs and not go overboard when saying what you want and what you expect from a relationship. Screw that. You’re old enough now to be sick of wasting your time and if a guy isn’t up to the task, screw him.

Giving a f*ck about other people’s opinions Gah! Other people’s opinions, especially when they’re about you, should be moot once you’ve become a grown woman. It’s when you let the opinions of others dictate your life that your life becomes a cesspool of negativity and a total waste.

Giving a f*ck about ridiculous fashion rules No white after Labor Day? F*ck it. No horizontal stripes unless you’re a size 0? No bikini or mini-skirt after 30? In the immortal words of Bikini Kill, suck my left one. Seriously.

Giving a f*ck about your ex You broke up for a reason and that reason is probably somewhere between him being awful and him being the worst, so it’s your job not to give any f*cks about him or what he might think of you.

Giving a f*ck about being polite in bed As a grown-ass woman, you’re not just a walk-on in your bedroom, but the f*cking star. If you don’t get what you want and how you want it, you throw being polite out the window and woman-the-f*ck-up about it.

Giving a f*ck about biting your tongue While in your earlier years some situations may have called for biting one’s tongue, it’s time to f*ck that. If someone says or does something that pisses you off or disrespects you in any way, then speak up. Even if that person is your boss.

Giving a f*ck about ending toxic relationships Some people are bad for us! Some people, even if they’re not cognizant of it, are horrific, toxic influences in our lives. You have no more f*cks to give them or what your life will be like without them – it won’t be a loss, that’s for sure.

Giving a f*ck about your mistakes Your mistakes do not define you; they’re merely pieces in your life that have made you who you are. That is all. Mistakes do not hold you back, do not open doors to judgment, or ruin your life. They’re necessary obstacles and not only do you not give a f*ck about them, but you’re practically grateful for them.

Giving a f*ck about fitting in Some people spend their whole lives trying to fit in only to realize that those who want to belong are just f*cking boring! Why would anyone want to be another sheep among millions of sheep? No thanks. Fly your freak flag and roll solo.

Giving a f*ck about social media In some not so breaking news, social media is not real life. People “liking” your tweet or “unfriending” you on Facebook is not something to get your panties in a twist over. In other words? You have no f*cks to give on this front.

Giving a f*ck about having the “perfect” body You have the perfect body for YOU and that’s all that matters. Now reach for those Doritos and order another pizza, for f*ck’s sake woman!

Giving a f*ck about status symbols Owning a Louis Vuitton bag or only wearing Chanel makeup is not going to make you a better person. Also, who even knows if that mascara is Dior or f**king Maybelline?

Giving a f*ck about what you can’t control There will always be things that are out of your control, and when you quit giving a f*ck about them you’ll finally feel free.

Giving a f*ck about not giving a f*ck In life, you need to choose your battles. You need to decide what deserves your f*cks and what doesn’t. When you give a f*ck, give it 150 percent, when you don’t also give it 150 percent. You should never half-ass anything, especially your f*cks.

How to stop giving a f*ck if you’re struggling

I’m not saying it’s easy to completely stop caring about stuff that doesn’t matter, but it is an important thing to do. Here are some tips.

Get a little perspective. Think about your life as a whole. How much of the things you love about it have anything to do with trying to be a people-pleaser? Probably not many. Now, how many things in your life seriously blow chunks because they involve having to deal with people and things you don’t want to and really, if you made a conscious choice not to, don’t have to? I think my point is clear.

Stop letting things/people live in your mind rent-free. Here’s the thing: by living your life according to what other people want or expect from you, you’re giving up your agency. Do these people pay your bills? Do they provide you with love, affection, support? If not, you’re letting them live rent-free in your brain. They don’t give even a second thought to you and your needs and desires, so why are you bothering?

Just… stop. This sounds easier said than done, but it really is that simple. The more you tell yourself that you couldn’t care less, the more you’ll begin to believe it. And don’t confuse this for not caring about the people and things in life that are important. You’re not being a cold person, you’re being a sensible, no-nonsense one. And that’s something worth celebrating.

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