For some women, giving oral sex can be a less than great experience. Even if you’re in love and want to please your partner, it’s not always easy to fully enjoy having a penis in your mouth. But the thing with oral sex is that it’s not just about your partner’s enjoyment, but your enjoyment, too. So once you realize there’s something in it for both of you, you can actually get more out of it than you ever thought possible.
- Switch up your technique. From licking, to kissing, to taking him fully in your mouth, if you use different techniques, you’ll find you’ll enjoy giving more. You’ll also be less bored and will have a lower risk of giving yourself TMJ.
- Do what makes you comfortable. While it may be your partner on the receiving end, it doesn’t mean that you should ignore what makes you comfortable. If he’s into gagging and you’re not, meet him halfway in the middle. It shouldn’t be a miserable experience for you.
- Realize it’s pretty damn empowering. When you’re giving head, you – and only you – are the one completely in control of your partner’s pleasure. It’s a pretty powerful position to be in and makes you feel truly awesome because of it.
- Use your hands. If you use your hands along with your mouth, you can take the pressure off your mouth having to do all the work. It’s amazing what a relief that is when you do that.
- Pay attention to his balls. Balls are really interesting and when they’re in your hand, they feel really, well, weird… but in a good way. Paying attention to his balls will not only add to his pleasure, but give you a good time, too.
- Include flavorful lube. Using flavored lube makes so much of a difference when you’re giving oral sex and can really make your partner feel like you’re more into the “job” than you might be.
- Incorporate food. From chocolate sauce to whipped cream to whatever else you’ve been fantasizing about dribbling on your main squeeze’s manly bits, you really can’t lose when you introduce food to the equation. It also makes for a lovely snack.
- Have confidence in your skills. One of the best ways to really get the most out of giving oral sex is to have the utmost confidence in your oral sex ability. Don’t second-guess your skills. Instead, go into it with the idea that he’ll never, ever, have it so good again.
- Use your toys. Depending on what position you use, your partner may not be able to reach your vagina to stimulate you in ways that you love. If that’s the case, bring your toys into the mix, like a vibrator that clips into place. It’s pretty much like a two-for-one special.
- Insist he pay attention to your body. As I said, certain positions can limit this, but it still doesn’t mean he should ignore your body. Even just stroking your arm provides an intimate touch that feels good.
- Talk dirty. This might seem like a silly suggestion, you know, because your mouth is full, but if you’re switching up your technique, then you’ll definitely have the opportunity to talk dirty, turning you both on at the same time.
- Display more excitement than you might have. Giving head isn’t just about the physical aspect, but the psychological aspect. If you express to your partner that you’re really into what you’re doing, either verbally or through enthused moans, you’ll not only convince him but yourself, too. It will take the level up a notch for both of you.
- Remember that your turn is just around the corner. Because sex is a give and take, it’s good to remember that after you’re done giving, it’s your turn to take. So give it your all, and you’ll both be happy.
