Perhaps you feel restless in your relationship, or you and your significant other haven’t been getting along as well as usual. You know you’re not as happy as you should be, but you can’t pinpoint what is wrong. Here are some signs that things are falling apart, and it’s either time to fix them or move on.
1. You’re not communicating with one another.
If you find it hard to talk to your partner or they don’t seem to be listening anymore, this could be a sign that things are no longer working out between you. Now is the time to just do it. Communication is essential in all relationships—if you can’t speak to each other, how will you ever be on the same page?
2. One of you is spending more time away than usual.
Things may seem okay when the two of you are together, but you’ve noticed that you’re spending less time with each other. Perhaps you hang out with friends more because they listen and talk to you. Or maybe your partner is spending more time at work to avoid discussing the issues in your relationship.
3. You’re feeling more alone than you should be.
Feeling alone when you’re not alone is awful. When your partner is home with you, you should feel their presence. But they’re not communicating with you or spending quality time with you, and it’s making you feel more alone than you would if you were single.
4. There’s a lack of intimacy.
Intimacy is about more than spending time in the bedroom together—it’s about bonding, cuddling, and sharing interests. If the two of you are no longer having deep conversations or romantic moments, this is a sign that your relationship is falling apart. Now is the time to schedule a date night to see if you can spice things back up.
5. You’re taking your emotions elsewhere.
When you feel like you can’t share your feelings with your significant other and need to have a deep conversation with someone, you may look to friends. Depending on how much information and emotion you’re sharing, you could find yourself emotionally cheating on your significant other, which is a sign you may be ready to move on.
6. You feel like you’re being judged.
If you’re starting to feel that you can’t do anything right in your partner’s eyes, things may not be as happy in your relationship as you’d hoped. Sometimes, you won’t see eye to eye in relationships, but if your partner is always pointing out your flaws, it may be time to talk to them about why they seem so annoyed by you. You just might be able to work through some boundary issues, but only if you talk about it.
7. Your boundaries are being ignored.
Speaking of boundaries, if your partner starts ignoring them, it can be hard to get along. It’s challenging to be happy when someone blatantly hurdles over your boundaries or even accidentally trips over them. Schedule a talk; it may be time for a split if it keeps happening.
8. You find yourself daydreaming about a new life.
Things are fine in your relationship, but you still daydream about what it would be like if you were single again. We all have these thoughts sometimes, but if you think about life without your partner daily, you may need to take a break from your relationship. At this point, it’s obvious you’re not all in.
9. Everything your partner does aggravates you.
Even if your relationship seems okay looking from the outside in, that doesn’t mean you’re not feeling like you got stuck with a toddler instead of a partner. If your partner aggravates you, whether it’s their childishness, anger issues, or something else, you’ll never be truly happy. You can set boundaries, but if they’re just being who they are, they may be unable to make the changes you need for contentment in this relationship.
10. Your arguments never seem to get resolved.
When you get into arguments, things should be worked out, and an agreement should be made, even if that is to agree to disagree. However, if your arguments seem unresolved lately, this can lead to more conflict. One of you could passive-aggressively bring up old arguments and worsen things when future conflicts arise. It’s a vicious cycle.
11. You don’t care whether you spend time together or not.
Happy couples enjoy spending time together. If you are at the point in your relationship where you’d rather spend time alone or with anyone other than your significant other, things probably aren’t as good between you as they should be. If you want to spend time together, but the other pushes you away, you’re growing apart. Quality time is essential, just as intimacy is.
12. You can’t stand to be in the same room.
If your partner walking into the room now makes you want to be elsewhere, for whatever reason, that’s a sign you’re not happy. You may still sleep in the same bed at night but prefer avoiding each other during waking hours. This could seem normal if it’s what you’re used to, but it would be a sign to some lovers that things are not working out.
13. You feel like you’re trapped in your relationship.
You may not feel this all the time, but if there are times when you feel stuck in your relationship, it could be because things aren’t going as well as they should be. There are all sorts of reasons people feel trapped in relationships, from kids to money. But here’s the thing: no one is forcing you to stay, and if you’re not happy, it might be time to move on.
14. You struggle to find any happiness.
It’s not just your relationship, you can’t find any happiness in your life. The truth is, if you’re really having trouble feeling joy, then you might want to look from the inside out. It’s possible your relationship is destroying your peace—and it sounds like it’s time to determine if you can make it together or if you should pursue happiness elsewhere.
15. You’ve been feeling sick or having new health issues.
Unhappiness in a relationship can lead to psychosomatic illnesses and real ones as well. You could be suffering from more stress than usual. You may find that things are causing anxiety in your partnership and now you have more headaches or stomach trouble because of it. If that’s happening, it might be time to reevaluate.
