9 Questions To Ask Yourself Before Getting Back Into The Dating Scene

Sometimes a dating break is the best idea in the world. You’re done with awkward evenings spent staring into your wine glass instead of the weirdo sitting across from you, and you want to focus on yourself. But eventually, you have to get back out there. How do you know if you’re ready? Ask yourself these questions:

Are you going to ghost? Ghosting is a pretty big deal these days (as in, you shouldn’t really do it). In some situations it can’t be helped, but for the most part, you need to ask yourself if you can clearly communicate with someone that you’re just not all that into them.

Will you be yourself on a date? Seems pretty simple and logical, and yet you’ve definitely gone on dates when you hid your pop culture obsessions or tried to look “cool” (whatever that means). Unless you can be proud of who you are, you really have no business going on a date.

Do you even want a relationship? Just because you’re tired of being single doesn’t necessarily mean you’re ready to seriously date someone. Know the difference between the two and then date away.

Will you learn from each first date? It sounds kind of corny, but first dates really are amazing learning experiences. You realize what you can tolerate and what you can’t, and you win confidence with every bad date. Plus, learning how to shake off bad experiences is always an awesome life skill.

Can you stop being so stubborn? It’s just a fact that you’re stubborn when it comes to your dating life, or you would never be single in the first place. But you should only be going on dates if you can let go of some of your assumptions about who you’re supposed to be with.

Can you let go of the single life? Some people are so in love with not being in love that they freak out over every good date because they don’t want to give their single lifestyle up. It’s up to you but dating for the sake of it will only hurt everyone.

Do you miss your ex? This can be a tough question to answer because of course you’re a super strong, independent woman and you are totally fine now. But if you’re still thinking about the one that got away, you might need a longer break.

What are you afraid of? Everyone’s afraid of something when it comes to love. You have to figure out what your fear is and then work it out before making it someone else’s problem.

Are you OK with rejection? Unfortunately, rejection comes in a few forms, from being ghosted to being flat-out told you’re not someone’s type. You should be able to move past it.

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