9 Ways Men Can Help Women Orgasm During Sex

Women often have a hard time reaching orgasm during sex. There are a lot of different reasons for that, and not all of them are down to their partner’s ability to please. However, there are a few things men can do to help increase their female partner’s chances of getting off. They might even end up having multiple orgasms! Here are a few tips to try.

Communicate clearly.

Every woman is different. She has different needs, different turn-ons, and different desires in the bedroom than other women. When there has been clear communication before sex takes place, women are more likely to feel confident that their partners won’t cross boundaries and will understand what will make them happy. Communication can take you from having sex to making love.

Put in the Time.

When a woman is rushed into sex, she’s not likely to be relaxed. Many women need time to get into sexy mode. This isn’t just something that they require in a new relationship but in long-term relationships too. Men need to understand that kissing and a boob grab aren’t enough to get most women into the frame of mind where they can feel ready for sex. Try some simple hand holding, hair stroking, or a light massage to give her the time she needs to get ready for sex and orgasms.

Indulge in Foreplay.

Lots and lots of foreplay. If men would slow down, they would realize how much fun it is for her and for them too. Foreplay can be anything from kissing naked to touching and caressing. Use your tongue. Use your words. Foreplay is anything but the actual act of penetration. And guys? This is often where she has her first orgasm. Yes, first!

Give her time to herself.

Women can’t relax enough to have orgasms if they’re expected to go from busy to sexy in a five-minute period. This is especially true of women with children, but even women without children can be so busy in their regular lives that they can’t get calm enough to really enjoy sex. Give your partner time to herself. If she acts like she doesn’t need it, don’t believe her. Encourage her to take time to relax with her friends or even just climb into the tub with a glass of wine and a good book.

Bring out the lube.

Everything is better with lube! Touching feels better, rubbing feels better, and penetration will certainly feel better. Lube isn’t just for older women and tight spots anymore. It comes in flavors that are safe for use anywhere on your body and different textures. Heat it up with some heating lube. Lube is wonderful, I promise.

Encourage her to masturbate.

Even if you’re not watching, her masturbation is good for your sex life. Go shopping for sex toys with her, and when you think she’s playing, don’t creep in the room and try to watch unless she invites you.

Watch.

If you’re really not sure what it takes to get her off, watch. Ask her if she can show you what works for her. Let her use toys or fingers. She’s definitely going to need to relax and she’s going to need to trust you. She might even need to think about it for a bit. But if you can sit back and let her show you how she takes care of business herself, pay attention. You can learn a thing or two.

Don’t make orgasm the only point of sex.

Sex is fun. Do you always need to have an orgasm to enjoy each other. If you take orgasms off the table as the main goal, you’re both more likely to have fun and she’s more likely to have an orgasm.

Experiment.

Get her to talk to you about her fantasies and try some of them out. She might want to take control, ormaybe she wants you to take control more. Maybe a little pain intensifies her pleasure. She might like it if you talk dirty to her. Talk about things that neither of you’ve ever tried and choose something you’d like to do together for the first time. If you’re doing anything really kinky that she’s not 100% sure about (or you’re not), establish a safe word. If anyone uses the safe word, everything stops.

Orgasms are wonderful for men and for women. Women sometimes just need a little more effort to work up to it. Sometimes women have a hard time communicating their needs in bed but when a partner encourages them to open up about their desires and fantasies, orgasms come a lot easier. Start with communication and go from there. Your partner will love you for it!

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