The Best Sex Positions When You’re Orgasm-Challenged

Can’t remember the last time you actually had an orgasm during sex? Don’t worry; you’re not alone. Most women have a hard time climaxing during sex because, unlike men, female sexuality is complicated AF. But with a little bit of maneuvering, you can get yours, too. It’s just all about the right position:

Cowgirl. When it comes to orgasms, the Cowgirl position is where it’s at on a couple different levels. For starters, you’re on top, so you’re in control. Your clitoris is also right up against your partner’s pubic bone, which means you can grind against it exactly right so you can climax. Most women find that this is the best position for having an orgasm during sex.

Reverse Cowgirl. True to its name, Reverse Cowgirl entails you sitting on your partner but in the opposite direction! This position is awesome for women who can orgasm either vaginally or through clitoral stimulation. Because the penis is entering from the behind, the G-spot is being stimulated for vaginal orgasm and, similarly to the Cowgirl position, you’re once again in charge of gyrating your body against your partner to stimulate your clitoris all the way to an orgasm.

The Bridge. Don’t let the name throw you off — you won’t being doing an actual bridge with this move. Instead, you’ll be lying on your back, as your partner enters you from either a standing position or while on his knees. From here, he will lift your hips up to meet his hips. While this won’t do much for those who orgasm via the G-spot, for women who need to have their clitoris stimulated during sex, this one hits the spot, especially if you circle your hips around against your partner’s pubic bone.

Spooning. You may not think that spooning is going to do much if you’re orgasm-challenged, but hear me out. Obviously, you know what spooning is, so I don’t need to explain how to get into that position. However, from here you want to add either his hand or your hand to the mix. As your partner slides in and out from behind, he’s hitting your G-spot — perfect for women who vaginally orgasm — but with your hands or his hands stimulating your clitoris, you get it all. Even if you don’t usually orgasm from G-spot stimulation, the combination of the two will definitely make getting there far easier than you think.

Belly Down. I’ve heard this one called “Belly Down” or “Lying Down Doggy,” but either way, it’s the same thing. Basically, you want to lie flat down on your stomach on the bed. From here, your partner lies on top of you, also on his stomach, while entering you from behind. Whereas the other positions enlist your partner’s pubic bone as a means to stimulate your clitoris, for this one you’re going to use the bed. So, while your partner is stimulating your G-spot, you’re stimulating your clitoris as you bump and grind against the mattress. If you need some extra help, your fingers are more than happy to get in on the action.

Coital Alignment Technic. While it might sound technical, as if plucked from a medical dictionary, CAT, as it’s known, is all about clitoral stimulation. (I’m sure you’re seeing a pattern here.) With your partner on top and inside you, he moves his pelvis so it’s in line with your clitoris, while you bend your legs and pull your knees in a bit. It might sound a little tricky, but it’s not. In fact, once you get into it and feel that clitoral stimulation while he, well, pounds you (for lack of a better word), you’ll know exactly why this is a great position for orgasms.

Doggy Style. Who doesn’t love doggy style? It’s hot, it’s primal, and it feels fantastic — and it’s also great for orgasms. It’s in this position that your partner’s penis not only gets really deep, but stimulates the G-spot with each thrust. From here, you can either use your hands to stimulate your clitoris, if you’re a clit-girl, as you did in the spooning position or, if you can climax on G-spot action alone, then arch your back and talk your partner through what intensity is best for you to orgasm.

Chair Sitting. While I’m sure there’s a “technical” name for this position like, “Chair Sex,” I’m just going to call it “chair sitting” to make it easy. Once you’ve eye-spied a chair (make sure it’s sturdy), have your partner sit on it while you straddle him and lower yourself onto his penis. This position is awesome for orgasms because you’re in control and can move your hips and pelvic bone in such a way so as to satisfy YOU. Honestly, when it comes to orgasms, a lot of it has to do with how in control you are of moving your body, so this one, like Cowgirl, is perfect for that.

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