My Biggest Fear Isn’t Failure, It’s Living An Ordinary Life

I used to be terrified of failing and making myself look like an idiot, which held me back from taking risks and trying new things. Now I’ve realized that taking risks is what life’s all about and if I don’t at least try, then I’ll be stuck doing the same thing every day of my life. I don’t want a mediocre life—I want an extraordinary one.

  1. I want to try things I’ve never tried before. It’s nervewracking to step out of my comfort zone but I know that if I don’t at least try new things then I’ll never grow as a person. I hate the thought of wasting my life doing the same thing every day because I’m too scared to try something new. If I want to be successful, then I can’t stay in my own bubble—I have to explore.
  2. I need to take each day as it comes. I’m not going to think too much about the future because that causes unnecessary worrying. I don’t know what my future holds but I can make sure it’s a good one by changing my mindset because that’s the difference between an ordinary life and an extraordinary one. Not every day will be a good one but I can deal with that. Besides, I know that I’ve had worse days and I got through them.
  3. I don’t want to fall into the same routine. Sometimes, it feels like my life is spent working, stressing, and worrying about the future. It feels so repetitive. I know that concentrating on work is important, especially if I want to progress in my career, but I don’t want that to be the one thing my life revolves around. I want to work to live, not live to work.
  4. Comfort zones are limiting. I’ve become so used to staying in my comfort zone that I can’t remember the last time I did something that I’m proud of myself for. To be honest, I rarely step out of my comfort zone which means that I’m confined to the same routine. When someone asks me what’s been happening in my life, I usually say something along the lines of, “I’ve been busy with work.” How boring is that? I want to be the kind of person who always has a good story to tell. I need to change for that to happen.
  5. I need to start taking more risks. Taking risks is terrifying because who knows what will happen? I might fail or embarrass myself and that could really knock my confidence. I know it makes me sound weak but I usually rely on other people. Sometimes, I feel like I can’t do something myself so I’ll ask someone to do it for me and then I’ll spend a long time regretting it. I hate feeling like a failure all of the time, so If I want to grow as a person and become successful then I have to start taking more risks.
  6. I strive to be more spontaneous. Honestly, I can’t remember the last time I did something without thinking about it first. I usually plan things weeks in advance and go through it in my head multiple times to make sure I’ve got everything right. I don’t want to mess anything up, which means that I’m constantly stressing about every damn thing and it’s exhausting. I need to stop worrying so much and be more spontaneous. Who cares if it doesn’t work out? At least I tried.
  7. I’m going to celebrate every small achievement. Some days, getting out of bed and getting work done is a big deal and I need to start celebrating that. It might not seem like a huge thing for others but it means a hell of a lot to me. Self-love is the first step to living an amazing life, so on those days when I feel negative about life I’ll remind myself of everything that I’ve achieved so far.
  8. I’m going to start exploring new places. Life isn’t meant to be lived in one place. As human beings, we’re meant to travel to different parts of the world and discover new things. I’ve always wanted to travel but lack of money, time and the fear of going to a place that I’ve never been before all hold me back. I don’t want to look back in a few years and realize that I wasted so much time wishing, instead of doing. I want to see things for myself and learn about different cultures and how other people live.
  9. I need to change things up when it gets boring. Life becomes dull when you wear the same outfits, do the same thing, and speak to the same people. There’s nothing wrong with change. In fact, it’s the one thing that keeps me on my toes and makes life more interesting.
  10. I’m not sticking to a timeline. Some people have a timeline that they stick to – get a job, buy a house, get married, have two children, grow old. It’s so limiting and I don’t have a clue what I want out of life so how can I be expected to follow a life plan? Maybe I’ll never get married and have children but that doesn’t mean that I won’t have an amazing life. In the end, all that matters is that I’m happy with the life I have. Everything else comes secondary to that.
Coralle is a freelance writer with an interest in relationships, women's health and parenting. In her free time, she enjoys reading, watching new Netflix shows and spending time with family.