15 Dead Giveaways Of A Terrible Person

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Everyone has that one person in their life who just rubs them the wrong way. You can’t quite put your finger on it, but something about them feels off. Well, I’m here to tell you that your gut instinct is probably right. Here are some dead giveaways of a terrible person:

1. They make you feel silly for things that make you happy.

If someone constantly belittles your interests or hobbies, they’re not looking out for your well-being. A true friend will support you and encourage you to pursue what brings you joy, even if they don’t personally understand it. Don’t let anyone dim your shine just because they can’t appreciate your light.

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2. They never apologize, even when they’re clearly at fault.

We all make mistakes, but a terrible person will never own up to theirs. They’ll deflect blame, make excuses, or just pretend like nothing happened. As Forbes notes, they’re trying to save face, but it just makes them look worse. A sincere apology shows empathy and a willingness to take responsibility for one’s actions. If someone can’t do that, they’re not worth your time or energy.

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3. They take every opportunity to badmouth anyone who isn’t in the room.

Gossiping and talking trash about other people is a major red flag. If someone is constantly speaking negatively about people behind their backs, chances are they’re doing the same thing to you when you’re not around. A good person either tries to uplift other people and speaks kindly, even when no one is listening, or they keep their mouth shut if they have nothing nice to say.

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4. They’re always asking for something, but never help when other people are in need.

We all need a little help sometimes, but a terrible person will only take and never give. They’ll be the first to ask for a favor or a handout, but conveniently disappear when someone else needs assistance. A true friend is there for you through thick and thin, not just when it benefits them.

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5. They don’t care (or sometimes even feel happy) about hurting people.

A lack of empathy is a major warning sign. If someone consistently disregards other people’s feelings or even takes pleasure in causing pain, they’re not someone you want in your life. A good person will continually strive to be kind and considerate, even when it’s difficult.

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6. They treat people who don’t have anything they want/need like crap.

Watch how someone treats people they don’t stand to gain anything from. If they’re dismissive, rude, or downright cruel to those they deem “beneath” them, that’s a clear indication of their true character. A decent human being will treat everyone with respect and dignity, regardless of their status or what they can offer.

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7. They tell you that they’re a good person.

Actions speak louder than words. If someone has to constantly remind you of their virtues, chances are they’re overcompensating for something. A truly good person will let their behavior speak for itself. They don’t need to brag or seek validation from anyone else.

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8. They talk down to waiters, baristas, and other service industry workers.

How someone treats people in service positions says a lot about their character, The Guardian points out. If they’re rude, condescending, or just plain nasty to the people serving them, that’s a huge red flag. A good person will always be polite and respectful, even when things don’t go their way.

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9. They’re only concerned about looking out for number one — themselves.

A terrible person will always prioritize their own needs and desires above everyone else’s. They’ll step on anyone and everyone to get ahead and have no qualms about throwing people under the bus for personal gain. A true friend will support and uplift those around them, even if it means sacrificing their own interests at times.

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10. They don’t clean up after themselves, especially in public places.

Leaving a mess for someone else to deal with is a sign of entitlement and a lack of consideration for other people. If someone can’t be bothered to pick up their own trash or clean up their own spills, they’re not someone you want to be associated with. A responsible adult will always leave a place better than they found it.

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11. They pressure people to do things they wouldn’t do themselves.

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Hypocrisy is one of the most telling signs of a terrible person. If someone is constantly pushing people to engage in behavior they themselves would never dream of partaking in, that’s a major warning sign. A good friend will respect your boundaries and never ask you to compromise your values or well-being for their own benefit.

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12. They don’t respect people’s boundaries.

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No means no, but a terrible person will never accept that. They’ll push and prod and cajole until they get their way, regardless of how uncomfortable or upset it makes other people feel. A true friend will always respect your limits and never try to force you into something you’re not comfortable with.

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13. They’re not very nice to animals.

A person’s treatment of animals is a good indicator of their overall character. If someone is cruel, dismissive, or just plain apathetic towards our furry friends, that’s a red flag. A kind and compassionate person will always treat animals with love and respect, even if they’re not a “pet person” themselves. (Obviously, this doesn’t apply if they have a legitimate allergy!)

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14. They blame other people for their mistakes.

Taking accountability is a sign of maturity and personal growth. A terrible person will always point fingers and shift blame when things go wrong, rather than owning up to their own shortcomings. A good friend will admit when they’ve messed up and work to make things right.

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15. Their actions don’t match their words.

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Talk is cheap, and a terrible person will say whatever they think you want to hear. But their behavior will always reveal their true colors. If someone consistently fails to follow through on their promises or live up to their own standards, they’re not someone you can trust. A good person will always strive to be authentic and consistent in their words and deeds.

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Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.