It’s pretty unique for your boyfriend to be cool with having period sex, sure, but to only be interested when you’re bleeding heavily is just plain weird, to be honest. That’s what my ex was like.
We had a great sex life in the early days. When we first got together, we were really hot and heavy and had an ideal sex life. We were young, so we did a lot of experimenting with each other, which was really awesome. We had that kind of relationship where you’re so super comfortable around one another, you can tell each other anything without fear of judgment or worry. In fact, I even farted during sex one time and he just ignored it. What a gent.
It was his idea to have sex when Aunt Flo was in town. I was quite taken aback when he first suggested it, ever so casually like it was the most normal thing in the world. I’d never done it before; I just presumed it wasn’t the done thing. However, the fact that my period blood didn’t put him off in the slightest was quite endearing in the beginning.
I didn’t get it—it’s messy and I felt gross. I really didn’t like it. I felt way too conscious to enjoy any of the pleasure and he always seemed to suggest sex when my bleeding was at its heaviest. It was just messy and off-putting, and while I thought it was awesome he was on board with something that is completely natural, it just wasn’t for me.
He lived with his mom, which was just awkward as hell. It’s all very well and good to put towels down on the bed and prepare for period sex well in advance, but come on, we were young and we both still lived at home. There was no way I was going to allow him to put blood-stained towels in the communal laundry basket he shared with his mom, I wouldn’t have even done that in my own family home. It was all just too much work having to discreetly discard the towels, never mind expensive. At that age, I had way better things to be spending my money on than disposable period sex towels.
He always joked that he was born a vampire. My ex was born on Halloween night at exactly midnight and often he would joke about secretly being a vampire. Any chance he got to dress up in costume, he always chose to be a vampire, so I couldn’t help but think his obsession with period sex was some kind of addition to this vampish fantasy he had. When he finally suggested he should go down on me, that was the last straw. I didn’t want to have sex on my period anymore and I put a stop to the whole bloody ordeal. He didn’t take it very well, to say the least.
I think he got bored with romping when there was no blood around. I didn’t realize that by saying no to period sex, I wouldn’t be getting any at all anymore! Suddenly he wasn’t interested in sex at all and would only initiate it when I was mid-cycle in the hopes that I’d change my mind. Years later, I still can’t figure out why he only wanted to be intimate on my period. I can only imagine he found regular sex boring or not enough of a challenge. It’s weird to me either way.
It creeped me out to think that my menstruating turned him on. While it was endearing in the beginning, it ended up being creepy. All these comments about him thinking he was a vampire started to not be a joke and I actually started to consider that maybe he was into that and wanted some sort of vampire bride.
I now know things I really wish I didn’t. We’ve been broken up for years now and I heard through the grapevine that he’s married and has a little baby girl. I’m really happy for him even though our split wasn’t exactly amicable, but I can’t help but wonder if he tried pushing his bloodthirsty nature on her too. Did she go for it? Was their child conceived in a mass of uterine lining? These are all thoughts I wish I didn’t have but I can’t unlearn what I know about him.
I won’t ever have sex on my period again, that’s for sure. I’ve never since been pushed to have period sex the way my ex did, but my current boyfriend has said he wouldn’t object to it if I wanted to. Unfortunately, I’ve been scarred for life by my ex and I’ll never have sex on my period again for as long as I keep having cycles!
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