Here’s What I Wish I Could Say To The Guy Who Led Me On

I doubt I’ll ever get the chance to talk to the guy who led me on and then simply decided that he didn’t want to be with me. It took me a while to get over it because of the way he abruptly left without saying a word, but at least I finally saw him who he really was. Some things are better left unsaid, but it doesn’t stop me from wanting to say these things to his face.

“I deserved better than you.”

Sometimes you don’t realize how badly someone treated you until they’ve walked out of your life. At least, that’s what it was like for me. I genuinely believed him when he said he loved me but if that was true then he wouldn’t have hesitated about being in a relationship with me, and he definitely wouldn’t have spoken to other women behind my back. So no, he didn’t deserve to be with someone like me and I can clearly see that now.

“You’re not as great as I thought you were.”

People can be deceiving and unfortunately, he had me fooled the entire time. I guess I wanted to be with him so badly that I was willing to ignore the obvious signs that he wasn’t going to commit. It was partly my fault because I should have seen him for who he was and not who I wanted him to be.

“What is it worth ruining our friendship?”

We had been friends for a few years before we decided to cross that line and see what would happen. I was apprehensive at first as I didn’t want to jeopardize our friendship; he was the person I could talk to about anything. Now I know I should have listened to my gut and saved myself a lot of heartache.

“You made me feel expendable.”

I know that I shouldn’t let have let a guy have that much power over me, but the way he treated me made it seem like I wasn’t important. He made me feel special only to walk out of my life and never speak to me again. For a long time I thought that I wasn’t good enough for him when actually, it was the other way around.

“You need to grow up.”

The truth is the more games he played, the more I wanted him. And he knew exactly what he was doing. I feel embarrassed to admit that I wasted so much time analyzing his messages and trying to work out how he felt about me. The guy wasn’t even worth it. He was stringing me along the whole time and to be honest, that proves he was too immature for a serious relationship.

“Why did you tell me that you loved me when you clearly never did?”

One of the most selfish things you can do is to tell someone you love them when you don’t. He said it first, so I felt like there was no reason to doubt him. Even after he left, I couldn’t stop thinking about it and wondering why he would get my hopes up when he had no intention of sticking around. It shows that he’s a cruel person who enjoyed leading me on.

“I didn’t love you either.”

I genuinely thought that I loved him but what I was feeling wasn’t love. I was emotionally dependent. I thought that I needed him to provide happiness, reassurance, and encouragement but I can rely on myself for these things. Let’s be honest, I didn’t need him—I never did.

“You didn’t pick me up, you put me down.”

 Whenever he said something harsh or offensive, I mistook that as “tough love” instead of acknowledging that he was being emotionally abusive. I wish I could have seen what was really happening so I didn’t let him walk all over me.

 “Good looks will only get you so far.”

There was something about him, maybe his good looks or his charm, that attracted me in the first place. And I think he knew that. He seemed to think that he could get any woman he wanted but I guess he’ll soon learn the brutal truth that looks aren’t everything. Perhaps he should work on being a decent person first.

“You were wrong, I didn’t need you.”

Whenever I had a problem, I would always turn to him for advice and some words of encouragement. I know I shouldn’t have been so emotionally dependent on someone else, but I thought that I needed him at the time. He used to say, “what would you do without me?” Now I can say that I’m much better off, thank you very much.

“I hope you’re happy.”

At the end of the day, I still want him to do well in life. We had known each other for so long that I don’t want there to be any bad feelings. It didn’t work out with us but I’m sure he’s found someone now who will make him happier than I could.

“Thank you for showing your true colors.”

I found it difficult to accept that someone who I thought I knew so well could end up hurting me the way he did. It made me feel like I’d never trust anyone again. But I don’t regret knowing him. He taught me that I can only depend on myself for my own happiness and that I should value my self-worth by being with someone who actually wants a real relationship with me.

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