They say if you don’t know if you’ve ever had an orgasm, then you definitely haven’t had one. It’s just one of those things that’s pretty obvious, and once you have one, you’ll never be able to go back to the days of sex without them. Those days before you figured out what you liked, and what worked for you. When you thought it was perfectly fine to never get off during sex, and just accepted it as reality. But you don’t have to live that way. You can have orgasms, if not every single time, then at least most of the time. Any guy worth sleeping with will make it his mission to get you off, and you deserve nothing less. There’s no reason to fake it — and doing so could spell disaster.
A guy would never fake it.
Granted, it’s a lot harder for guys to fake it, but he never would anyway. Unfortunately a guy’s orgasm usually signals the end of sex for obvious reasons, and most of the time he’s going to keep thrusting away until he gets to the finish line.
You don’t want him to think what he’s doing works when it doesn’t.
If you fake it once, he’s going to think what he was doing when you had that “orgasm” will work next time too. So he’ll keep doing that same things that didn’t work and you’ll be stuck between continuing to fake it or telling him he’s not as much of a stud as he thinks he is.
If you don’t expect it, it will never happen.
For women, having an orgasm has a lot to do with being in the right mindset. If you already have it in your head that it’s not possible, then you’ll never be able to get there.
You’ll never know if he cares whether you come if you keep telling him you did when you didn’t.
If he thinks he doesn’t have to do much to get you off, how do you know if he’d actually put in the effort if it were required? You don’t want to end up with a guy who’s selfish in bed, so don’t let him be selfish.
You deserve it.
Why should the guy be the one to get off every time? You aren’t just a blow up doll there for his satisfaction. You deserve to enjoy sex just as much as he does.
He wants to get you off.
A women who enjoys sex is a turn on — it’s a fact. Guys want to be able to give you multiple orgasms, so don’t take that away from him. Or yourself.
He’ll never figure it out if you don’t help him out a little.
Every woman is different so you can’t expect every guy to know exactly what you like. Give him a little direction and he’ll learn how to adjust his approach, making the sex better not just between you two, but the women he sleeps with in the future will be thanking whoever came before them for teaching him what to do.
Guys like a challenge.
Maybe in the past he’s never had to work that hard to make women orgasm (or so he thinks). With you, he’ll have to up his game a little, and maybe even learn some new tricks in the process. He’ll want to work even harder for that sense of accomplishment.
There’s no need to feel ashamed
. So you aren’t one of those women who comes at the mere thought of sex. Guess what? That’s completely normal! Don’t worry so much about making him work hard to get you off. He probably loves it, so lie back and enjoy it.
It’s okay if you don’t have an orgasm every single time.
Sometimes it’s just not in the cards no matter how hard you try, and that’s totally fine. Luckily sex is still a lot of fun even without the happy ending. Just don’t make it a habit.
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