If You’re A Woman Who Loves Too Hard, Read This

This is for the woman who loves too hard, who has so much affection in her heart for someone special but just hasn’t met the person who’s worthy of her just yet. If you feel hopeless and heartbroken because none of your relationships have worked out. If you feel like you’ll never find the one who understands your soul and appreciates your love, keep reading because girl, this is for you.

  1. You are not too much. First of all, I just want to let you know that the way you love and the way you are is not too much. Despite what any of the people you’ve dated before may have told you, you don’t love too much and you’re not too intense. The thing is, the right person for you will never think that you’re too much or too intense. The right person for you, the person you’re supposed to be with will love the way that you love and will make you feel just enough.
  2. Don’t let the bad ones jade you. I know it’s hard to keep throwing yourself back into the dating ring when you’ve been knocked down so many times. If every relationship you’ve had has ended in heartbreak, you might be thinking, “What’s the point in trying again?” I hate that you’ve been burned by so many jerks, but don’t let that ruin the rest of the world for you. There are still amazing people out there, I promise you. Don’t let yourself become jaded because there have been some losers out there who haven’t handled your heart the way it deserves to be held. Keep holding onto the dream of love.
  3. It’s okay to have standards. Don’t let anyone from your past make you think that the perfect partner that you’re dreaming of isn’t out there or that you have to somehow adjust the things that you want in a romantic partner to find them. That is a complete and total lie. No, there are no perfect people out there. We all have flaws, but the perfect person for YOU is definitely out there and you should never have to settle for anyone that doesn’t meet your standards.
  4. Take the time to focus on yourself. As much as we all want to find our soulmate and fall hopelessly in love, you have to remember the importance of loving yourself and taking the time to really focus on your own goals and your own life. Everyone says this but, it’s totally true, you can’t fully love someone else until you truly love yourself. You should be your number one priority before any love interest. Once you’ve got yourself figured out, your eyes will be opened to so many past relationships and it’ll suddenly seem so clear why they didn’t work out and why it was a good thing that they didn’t. It’ll prepare you for better relationships in the future.
  5. Romance is not dead. Despite what the terrible people out there might make you believe, romance is in fact not dead. There are still incredible people out there who will sweep you off your feet and give you all of the storybook romance feels. It’s just a matter of finding them. Don’t let the pain of your past convince you that those kinds of lovers don’t exist and you have to settle for crumbs. Nothing could be further from the truth.
  6. You can’t “scare off” the right person. With women that love with their whole hearts, it can be easy to convince ourselves that we need to tone ourselves down or mute our excitement because we “scare people off” with our intensity. Please. The right person for you could never be scared away by your enthusiasm for them or the budding relationship. You won’t have to contain your joy at all because it will be completely reciprocated by the right person.
  7. Save it for the ones who deserve it. Your love and what you have to offer someone is so huge and so incredible that you shouldn’t be wasting your efforts on someone who won’t appreciate you. If the person you’re trying to show love to isn’t appreciating it or seems put off, just save yourself the time and heartbreak and move on. They’re not the right one for you.
  8. You’re not weak. You’re stronger than you know. People might think you’re vulnerable or weak because you fall in love too easily, but what they don’t realize is that your ability to be so open and willing to love is what makes you stronger, not weaker. Having the courage to love again and again is what sets you apart from everyone else and I promise you that the right person will come along and see that strength.
  9. Don’t let others’ opinions change you. Sure, you might get some flack from your friends about the fact that you fall in love so quickly and that you try so hard in relationships, but who cares? You can’t win if you don’t play the game and you’re out there trying and giving it your all. That’s more than a lot of people can say. You’re a fighter who truly believes in love. Don’t let anyone take that away from you.
  10. They’re out there. Don’t give up. The most important thing to keep in mind is that your person is out there. The person who meets your passion and effort with appreciation and welcome. The person who sees you for the amazing, beautiful, poetic soul that you are and does everything they can to hold onto you because you are a true treasure. Don’t stop believing in love and your ability to find it. It’s out there. They’re out there.
Journalist and Fiction Writer. Raised in the South but built for the big city. Book Nerd. Overall nerd, honestly. Coffee Addict. Obsessed with all things leather and lacy. I like dark lipstick and writing about my exes. I have headphones in 90% of the time.