I’m A Size Queen & I Won’t Apologize For Liking Big Penises

One of the most common phrases that girls say to guys when they’re sleeping with them is “size doesn’t matter.” Unfortunately, for some of us, size does matter — a lot. Girls who are known for preferring more well-endowed men are called size queens, and I happen to be one of them. Here’s what you should know about us:

  1. We’re rarer than you think. Contrary to popular belief, most girls who hear the sizes I prefer don’t nod in agreement. In fact, most wince and ask how I can walk afterwards. I can count on one hand the number of girls who’ve told me that they prefer men to be the size I like them to be.
  2. “Size queen” is in the eye of the beholder. Most women would agree that a 6 to 7 inch penis is a pretty big deal. Some might consider those girls to be size queens, but I typically prefer them to be 9 inches or longer, so I wouldn’t consider that to be the case.
  3.  Girth matters as much, if not more, than length (but that’s true for most women). A girthy guy can hit all the right spots, even if he isn’t the longest one out there. If given the option between a guy who’s thicker and a guy who’s longer, I’ll most likely choose Mr. Thick as a result.
  4.  It can definitely be a fetish. For me, it’s a fetish. I actually enjoy a bit of pain during sex and, well, going with a guy who’s very large makes it easy to get that element into bed. I also get turned on by the way a large member looks. So yeah, it’s a fetish for me.
  5. Guys tend to flip out about it when they find out. It never ceases to shock me. Even the most rational, normal guy can go a bit nuts with their insecurity when they hear that I openly prefer big penises. I’ve had guys almost immediately get angry and start slut-shaming me. I’ve had guys basically beg me to tell them that they’re big enough. Some just flat-out begin overcompensating with a machismo overdose. Either way, it’s really telling about how much guys care about their size.
  6. That being said, most size queens aren’t opposed to dating average sized men. It’s a preference, but not a necessity, for most of us. I’ve even dated a couple of guys who were below average, primarily because of the fact that they were nice and had great foreplay skills.
  7. There are anatomical reasons why girls might like larger guys. Bigger guys have an easier time hitting a woman’s G-spot and also can hit a woman’s cervix easier. Most women don’t like having their cervixes hit because it usually hurts… but I do.
  8. It’s not necessarily a promiscuity thing. A common myth is that only promiscuous women are size queens, and this isn’t true. I’ve met size queens who only found out that they preferred bigger members because of their experimentation with sex toys. (Either way, even if a woman is promiscuous, why does this matter?)
  9. There’s a limit to how big a guy can be and still keep a size queen happy. Bigger isn’t always better, and I found that out the hard way. I once had a guy who was roughly the size of my forearm… in both size and girth. After about two minutes, we literally had to stop having sex because I was crying in pain. I realized that I had a preference for guys who only fit a small window of sizes after that incident.
  10. I’m not going to apologize for it anymore. I’ve dealt with a lot of slut-shaming as a result of admitting I like bigger men. I’m not going to apologize for my preferences. Guys don’t apologize for liking big tits, why should I apologize because I don’t want to date Mr. Weenie Weenie Cotton Teenie?
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.