Is your boyfriend manipulating you? If you’re dating a guy and feel like somehow, you’re always on the wrong foot with him, chances are it’s not all your fault. In fact, you probably aren’t doing anything wrong at all. If you notice these signs, you’re dealing with a very manipulative partner and need to get out as soon as possible before he can cause any more damage.
He gaslights you at every possible opportunity.
When you call him out for bad behavior or get upset by something he does or says, he tells you that you’re crazy, imagining it, or downright wrong. Sometimes he acts like he has no idea what you’re talking about and insinuates that it’s all in your head. Chances are, it’s not, and the truth is that he’s manipulating you.
He somehow always manages to flip the blame.
When he does something wrong, if he does cop to there being a problem, it’s your problem, of course. He did nothing wrong – it was all you. If he bailed on plans he had to be somewhere for you, it’s your fault because you didn’t ask him early enough. If he burns the dinner, it’s your fault because you shouldn’t have been talking to him and distracting him.
He’s a pathological liar.
A liar may not necessarily seem manipulative at first, but the more you think about it, the more you’ll realize that he totally is. This guy lies in order to skew the reality of situations so that you’ll react a certain way, do a certain thing, or otherwise bend to his will. It’s manipulative in nature because in his eyes, there’s no power in the truth.
He convinces you to do things you don’t want to do.
This is one of the biggest and most obvious signs that a guy is manipulating you. Boundaries in relationships are important and healthy, but if he’s constantly crossing or outright ignoring yours, it’s clear he has no respect for you and only wants to get his own way even if it makes you uncomfortable. What an absolute jerk.
He constantly criticizes you but seems to think he’s perfect.
Ah, the classic. You’re emotional, clingy, lazy, overweight, [insert negative adjective here] and he’s absolutely perfect. He never does anything wrong but you barely do anything right. By continually insisting this is the case, he’s able to manipulate you more easily by wearing down your self-esteem and making you more dependent on him.
He says one thing and does another.
Another of the major signs a guy is manipulating you is when his actions and words just don’t line up. He says what he thinks you want to hear at times, knowing 100% as he says it that he’s going to do whatever the hell he wants to regardless of what you think about it. It’s infuriating and disheartening.
He lacks any perspective besides his own.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to be able to put yourself in your partner’s shoes so that you can be more empathetic and understanding. However, he refuses to do this. The only perspective he understands is his own and he refuses to even try to see things from your shoes. Get rid of this guy now.
Sometimes it’s hard to spot the signs a guy is manipulating you, but once you notice them, it’s important that you react accordingly and immediately. Don’t let anyone treat you like that!