Is Your Guy Losing Interest? Here’s How to Fix It

Is Your Guy Losing Interest? Here’s How to Fix It ©iStock/AmmentorpDK

Do you sense your guy is pulling away or getting bored with your relationship? Hey, sometimes, it happens, but that doesn’t mean this thing is dead in the water. Sometimes you have to act instead of react to get things with your guy back on track. Here are some tips on what you can do when your guy starts losing interest.

  1. Don’t board the nuts train.It could just be a temporary slump, which is something most couples experience. When you’re together for a while, stuff gets routine, and thus, boring. If you panic, you’re only going to make things worse. Best to take a deep breath, stay calm, and take a real honest look at the situation. If it’s truly bad, you can always…
  2. Try to spice things up. Go to new restaurants, try a cooking class, or explore a new area of your city/town. Freshen things up a little. It might sound cliche, but doing something different can work wonders for a stagnant relationship.
  3. Plan regular date nights. Remember how you used to go on dates before you settled into your routine relationship? Try that again. Actually make an effort to plan regular date nights when you take time for just the two of you. It can go a long way in reminding you why you fell for each other to begin with.
  4. Take a break. I know, I know, most people think that “taking a break = breakup” but that’s not always true. Sometimes, you just need a break to reevaluate what the relationship really means to both of you. “Absence makes the heart grow fonder” and all that.
  5. Try to find a shared interest.What’s something your guy loves that you really never got into? Maybe now is the time, because then you’ll have a mutual hobby and you might find a new fun thing to do. It could be as simple as getting into his favorite TV show. Just figure out what he loves to do and find a way to do it together.
  6. Sex it out. Sometimes, more sex fixes everything. Just sayin’. When couples lose their sex life, it creates all sorts of problems. Embracing your inner freak between the sheets could help – even if only temporarily.
  7. Get real with communication. What’s that? Actually talking to him? Yes, this is actually an option. You’re not a mind reader and neither is he. The only way to figure out what’s really going on is to talk to him. There is always the possibility that this is all in your head — you won’t know until you ask.
  8. Make an effort to show your appreciation for him. Sometimes, we all feel like we’re being taken for granted. Maybe you love and appreciate your guy more than ever, but he just doesn’t know that. Guys can be kind of oblivious. Let him know just how much he means to you. Compliment him, do a favor for him, give him some relaxation time — anything that says, “Hey dude, I appreciate you and all that you do.”
  9. Go on a trip together. Yes, I know that going on a vacation isn’t going to solve all your problems; they’ll still be there when you get back. But sometimes, you need to press “pause” on your daily life and just GTFO and really enjoy yourselves. A mini trip can freshen up your relationship the way staying a home and just slogging through it never could. Bon voyage!
  10. Dump the dude. Sure, it might be extreme, but if he’s truly lost interest and you don’t feel like entertaining him like some dancing bear at the circus, then it might be best to just dump the guy. Yes, relationships take work, and that’s fine, but if you feel like he’s totally checked out and can’t come back, it may be time to end it.
Almie Rose is a writer from Los Angeles, California. Her favorite thing to do is eat, sleep, and repeat. If you enjoy reading about dating and Los Angeles and pop culture, check out her book, "I Forgot To Be Famous."