I May Be Single, But As Long As I Have These Things In My Life, I Don’t Even Care

I’m happily single, but that doesn’t mean my life is perfect. The single life can be quite the struggle, so when I’m feeling down about my relationship status, all I have to do is remember that having these 10 things makes everything okay:

  1. Really great girlfriends. My friends are always there for me. They’re the rocks I can lean on when times get tough or when I’m feeling down. I might not have a boyfriend I can depend on, but it would be pretty hard for any man to compete with my girls anyway. We’ve built an amazing support system and I know that as long as I have my friends by my side, I can get through anything.
  2. A reliable Netflix account. I can do the Netflix without the chill. As long as I have an unlimited amount of movies and TV shows at my fingertips, I’ll never be bored. I don’t need a man to entertain me. Men might come and go in my life but my relationship with Netflix, now that’s one love that will last forever.
  3. Wine, wine, and more wine. Nothing soothes the soul like a good bottle of red after a long day. Sip by sip, I can feel my stress levels shrink away. I can’t imagine any guy ever tasting that good. Life is full of anxiety, but somehow a bottle of wine can calm the storm and make even the darkest of days feel okay.
  4. A place to call home. I don’t care if I’m living alone, as long as I have someplace in the world that feels like home, I’ll be okay. Maybe that place is where I sleep every night or maybe it’s back in the house I grew up with the people who first loved me and raised me to be the woman I am today. I might not have the comfort of a man’s arms, but I do have a place I can feel safe. That’s what home is to me.
  5. The support of my family. I’m luckily enough to have parents that love me for exactly the person I am. I’m blessed with siblings who will always make time for me even when they have separate lives of their own. My family doesn’t try to change me. They just support me in my life and my decisions. I’ll never stop appreciating them because I think an unconditional love like that is truly rare.
  6. Confidence in who I am. I’m not still discovering myself. I know who I am and I’ll never change myself for any man. I’m willing to grow and I try to better myself every single day, but fundamentally, I’m still the same girl. When I put myself out there, I’m not trying to impress guys by exaggerating aspects of my personality or my interest. All I can be is me. At the end of the day, I am who I am and that’s more than enough.
  7. A woman’s best friend—my dog. Who needs a boyfriend when I have such an overwhelming amount of love to greet me every time I come home? No man is ever going to love me like my dog does. My dog’s love is pure and selfless. She’s always there for me and I’m always there for her. I’m not so sure a man could live up to those kinds of standards.
  8. True self-acceptance. I don’t need a man to love me. Why? Because I love myself. I accept myself for who I am inside and out. I love my face, body, brain and personality. If I was constantly trying to change myself and telling the mirror that I’m not good enough then maybe I wouldn’t survive the single life, but knowing that I’ll always have love for myself is what makes being alone okay.
  9. A career I actually care about. I have more potential than to simply be a great girlfriend. I have true passion in my life. That might not be in the form of a relationship, but it’s not worthless. I love what I do and my career inspires me every single day. My life has more purpose than being some man’s arm candy, and I’m proving that step by step day-by-day.
  10. The possibility of finding love. Even if I never find it, knowing that I’ll keep looking comforts me. I’m not the type of person who’s going to give up on the things I truly want. I want to find love and that may never happen but staying optimistic is what’s going to keep me sane. There’s always that possibility of true love, and that’s something I can never forget.
Kelsey Dykstra is a freelance writer based in Huntington Beach, CA. She has a bachelor’s degree in Creative Writing from Grand Valley State University and been writing professionally since graduating in 2013. In addition to writing about love and relationships for Bolde and lifestyle topics for Love to Know, she also writes about payment security and small business solutions for PaymentCloud.

Originally from Michigan, this warm weather seeker relocated to the OC just last summer. Kelsey enjoys writing her own fictional pieces, reading a variety of young adult novels, binging on Netflix, and of course soaking up the sun.

You can find more about Kelsey on her LinkedIn profile or on Twitter @dykstrakelsey.