While most women want the fairy tale we dreamed of as little girls, actually meeting Prince Charming and getting our happy ending is much easier said than done. In reality, most of us just throw ourselves into the dating world and hope for the best. When things are going well, actually forming a committed relationship is amazing, but how many times have things ended up being far more casual than any of us would have expected (not to mention way more casual than guys led us to believe)? In other words, most of us have ended up being some guy’s booty call at one time or another. How can you tell if he’s using you for sex? It’s pretty simple if you’re paying attention.
The conversation is generic as hell.
When you go out on a date, the conversation should be engaging and free-flowing. When it isn’t, you could be dealing with a guy who’s not all that interested in you outside the bedroom. Contrary to popular belief, you can’t talk your way out of hook-up zone, so it’s better to get out now.
You always go where you won’t know anyone.
Does it seem like you’re always having to meet him in a secluded spot of the city where no one you know has a chance of seeing you? You may not be paranoid; you may just be a hook-up. Men usually love to be seen with a beautiful woman if he’s got real feelings for her, but if he only wants you for sex, he has no reason to show you off and it’s a serious red flag.
You barely know anything about him.
As crazy as it sounds, it’s not all that uncommon for women to see a guy for a while without ever truly getting to know him or even noticing how little information about himself he reveals. There should be a natural progression of finding out things about a guy. If you ask questions about elements of his life or even his thoughts and feelings on a particular topic and he seems closed off, this could be a sign that he’s far from serious about you and doesn’t want to get any closer.
He keeps you from meeting his friends and family.
Have you met your guy’s parents? Have you been to parties his friends have thrown or attended business events as his date? If you answered no to one or all of these, this is a definite sign that the guy you may think is just taking his time sees you a hook-up. It takes a lot of effort for him to keep you away from the people in his life, so if he’s going through all that trouble, he’s likely not interested in any more than hooking up.
He’s only interested in meeting up if sex is on the table.
Guys are very clever in masking a lie as the truth when they deal with sex, so women need to be on our toes with this. It’s normal for a guy to take you to a nice restaurant, a concert, the movies… The issue comes when every encounter takes place in an environment where he can get laid. Believe me, it’s not a coincidence — and have you ever actually hung out when you had your period? Think about it.
You don’t hear from him during normal hours.
If a man only contacts you at night, you’re definitely nothing more than a hook-up. There are 24 hours in a day, and even the busiest people have an hour break at some point during the day to stop and speak to you. If you’ve answered his midnight “U up?” text before, he’ll definitely be coming back for more… and that’s about it.
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