Staying In A Loveless Relationship Will Slowly Destroy You

Relationships and love go hand in hand, right? Not always. Many couples stay together even though the love either faded away long ago or they were never in love to begin with. Why? It could be a living situation, fear of being alone or possibly even children being involved. Whatever the reason, it’s not worth staying in a loveless relationship. You might think it’ll be alright to start with, but over time, it only tears you down. A couple without love is destined to fall apart or live their lives in the most miserable way. It’s better to be single than deal with that type of emotional torment day after day.

1. You deserve to be loved. Some women say that their crappy relationships are the best they can do. Hey, at least the men like them, right? They feel they don’t really deserve to be loved and they convince themselves that’s true. It doesn’t matter what happened in your life, though. You deserve a relationship where you’re truly loved. If you don’t feel that way yet, you must work on building your self-worth before you even think about dating.
2. It only leads to resentment. The more happy couples you see, the more you start to resent your situation and your partner. You blame them for taking away years from your life and you blame yourself for settling. A bitter life isn’t exactly fun, so don’t do it to yourself. Both of you are worthy of a fulfilling connection. If that’s not with each other, you have to accept it.
3. Your self-esteem takes a nosedive. The longer you stay in a loveless relationship, the less worthy you feel. There’s very little intimacy (if any), just general communication and you’re not exactly a priority. While no one does this on purpose, it’s a form of emotional abuse and it’ll kill the self-esteem of even the strongest woman.
4. Cheating is inevitable. Some couples who both realize the love just isn’t there agree to an open relationship, while others still try to remain faithful. The problem is, the stress of coming home every day to someone who doesn’t love you makes cheating sound like a good idea. Why stay if one or both you want to be with someone else all the time?
5. It doesn’t benefit anyone. Sure, it seems easier to just stay together to keep that cheap apartment rent you locked in several years ago or avoid losing any mutual friends, but all the resentment, loss of self-esteem, and inevitable cheating affect everyone around you. Eventually, all the negativity causes you to lose friends, push away family, and even make any children you share miserable too.
6. You both deserve to have your needs met. In a relationship, you have certain basic physical and emotional needs. This could involve sex, holding each other close, communication, and emotional support. But, subtract love from the equation and those needs don’t get met. You both deserve better than that.
7. You miss out on being cherished. One of the best parts of a serious relationship is that feeling of being cherished. You feel like you’re the whole world for the other person and vice versa. When the love goes away, you’re not special or cherished. You’re lucky if you’re even considered a friend.
8. It’ll never change. Sadly, the loveless part is often one-sided. You think you can change him by loving him. I hate to tell you, but that never works. He won’t suddenly start loving you just because you love him. Don’t keep putting up with a crappy relationship for unrequited love.
9. Isn’t happiness better than depression? It’s hard to stay happy when you’re wasting your life in a relationship where you’ll never be loved like you deserve. What does this lead to? Feelings of depression or even an actual diagnosis of depression. Breaking up might make you sad at first, but you’ll recover and be happy again.
10. He’s not worth it. I don’t care how good of a friend he is or how much the two of you went through together, he’s not worth it. If he doesn’t love you or you don’t love him, it’s time to end it. You could always stay friends, but you deserve the chance to have a relationship with someone else.
11. It creates gaps between you and your friends. The worse you feel about your relationship, the worse your mood becomes. You may even start hating to be around any of your couple friends who are actually in love. The longer the situation continues, the further you’ll push your friends away until it’s just you and your loveless partner.
12. You’ll just live separate lives, anyway. Since there’s no love, you don’t really want to spend that much time together. Odds are, you have individual hobbies and spend as much time apart as possible. You’re not “making it work,” you’re living a separate life entirely. Why not just do this without the miserable relationship?
13. You’ll likely give up on your dreams. As your self-esteem fades away, you lose all hope of ever achieving your dreams. Maybe you wanted to go back to school to switch careers or start your own business. If you don’t believe in yourself anymore, you give up on trying anything new.
14. You’re missing out on the right person. If these reasons aren’t enough to get you out of a loveless relationship, maybe this one will do it for you. There IS a man out there who will love you. You just haven’t met him yet. He might pass you by if you’re living your life with someone you can’t love you. You owe it to the right guy and yourself to end the charade and be sure you’re available when the time comes.