I Tried A Strap-On And It Was Amazing

Sex toys had never really been my thing, but when my boyfriend and I starting talking about pegging, I was intrigued. Turns out, wearing a strap-on for the first time was an exciting, novel, and overall wonderful experience—here’s why I loved it so much.

Confidence came easily to me. 

After the initial uncertainty, I actually felt really confident wearing it. It gave me a sense of power and control that I’d never experienced before and the rush of power gave me the self-assurance I needed to carry me through the rest of the experience.

I discovered my dominant side and found myself enjoying it. 

Being generally very submissive when it comes to sex with men, pegging allowed me access to a side of myself I had very rarely been in touch with. I embodied a dominance that felt simultaneously new and natural. I loved the opportunity to play with that side of my sexuality and see that I wasn’t strictly a sub. I could tap into my dominance given the right circumstances.

I felt incredibly nurturing. 

Surprisingly, the most prevalent feeling I experienced was a one of nurturing. From my own experience with anal sex, I knew how important it was to take a caring and gentle approach. I felt an overwhelming sense of loving responsibility for my boyfriend’s physical, emotional, and psychological well-being while I was pegging him. I wanted to give him the same care I would expect if I were in his position.

I got to experience the other side of sex. 

It was fascinating to get a glimpse into the typical male sexual experience. I’ve been the receiving partner my entire life, so wearing a strap-on allowed me to appreciate the particular benefits and challenges of the penetrating role. Since then, I’ve broadened my understanding of what it’s like to be on the other side of the sexual equation.

Intimacy and trust were amplified. 

There’s so much trust involved in allowing a person to enter you, especially when it comes to anal sex. I was grateful for the trust my partner had in me, allowing me to penetrate him and sharing a very intimate experience together. It felt like crossing a threshold into more closeness and connection.

My body was changed in weird and wonderful ways. 

In some ways, it felt as though I suddenly had a different body. The dildo became an extension of my own body, moving as I moved. I had control over a member that appeared as if out of nowhere and somehow now belonged to me and my body. It was weird and hot and powerful all at the same time and it’s something I would recommend to any woman curious about what it’s like to have a penis.

My partner understood me better.

For the first time, my partner was able to understand what it was like to be penetrated. This was so powerful for me, knowing that the position I usually took in sex was being experientially understood by the person usually doing the penetrating. I felt deeply grateful for his willingness to take on this role and for the insight it gave him into how I experienced sex.

It introduced me to the joys of sex toys. 

Since my first encounter with a strap-on, I’ve been much more open to sex toys in general. This is something I used to avoid because I think I had a lot of shame tied up with the idea, but that’s changed dramatically. I recently bought my own strap-on harness, along with a separate dildo which I really love. It’s changed the way I masturbate. The world of sex toys is vast and I’m suddenly intrigued by what else I could be exploring. So many toys, so little time!

There are now new possibilities with women to discover. 

A long-standing fantasy of mine has been to use a strap-on on another woman. After actually having worn one myself, this fantasy has only become more enticing. I’d love to explore the penetrator/penetrated dynamic with a female partner in the same way I was able to with my boyfriend. The more I’ve explored the idea, the more open I am to being on the receiving end as well.

It was new and exciting. 

Discovering a new facet of my sexuality and an entirely new sexual act was exhilarating. I love experimenting sexually and it was wonderful to find a partner interested in doing the same. Sexuality can be so rich and varied. Why not try something new when given the opportunity?

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