The Ultimate New Year’s Resolutions For Single Girls Everywhere

Do you want to flourish in 2020? Then you need to embrace your single girl status instead of letting it bring you down. Don’t walk into this new year with animosity or hatred (or that sh*tty boyfriend). Commit to these 10 New Year’s resolutions to better the relationship you have with yourself and everyone around you.

  1. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else. It’s easy to start feeling down about your solo status when you’re constantly comparing your life to those of people in relationships. You want to go on vacation with your significant other and take cute pictures too! I totally get it, but playing the comparison game isn’t going to make your dreams come true. It’s going to make you feel terrible for no reason at all. Your New Year’s resolution for 2020 should be to focus on everything you have, not everything (you think) someone else has.
  2. Delete That A**hole. How many times have you said you’re done with them, and how many times have you continued to reach out? Sometimes saying you’re done isn’t enough. We’ve all been there, and while you might think you’re strong enough to avoid temptation, you’re not. This is why you have to force yourself to forget. Delete their phone number, block them from ever reaching out, and unfollow them on social media. Be done with the jerk who’s always lived in the back of your mind.
  3. Take A Risk. What’s one thing you’ve always wanted to do but have been too afraid to try? Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to quit your job and leave the country to be a risk-taker. All you have to do is something new. Apply to that senior-level job, move out of state, become an influencer. Do something you know you’ll regret if you don’t.
  4. Don’t Be A Casualty. Do you want a long-term relationship? Then stop dating guys who just want to keep things casual. If his idea of a date night is “hanging out at home,” go ahead and drop him. You don’t need to entertain people who aren’t on the same wavelength. Trust me, there’s no shame in holding out until you find someone worthy.
  5. Define Yourself. You don’t know your future, but you probably have a good idea of where you’d like to end up. Discuss your plans with yourself so you can see the path you need to stay on. You can create a vision board or write it in your journal. It doesn’t matter, just as long as you define what you want professionally and personally. You’ll feel so much more confident and reassured once you can visually see your life plan.
  6. Start A Monthly Meet-up. Friends are important and yet so many of us push those relationships to the back-burner. I know you’re busy but you need to make time for your squad. Take charge of hosting monthly gatherings or meet-ups around town. Your friends will appreciate it. Plus, some of your friends might bring more friends who could be single. You never know!
  7. Get Healthy. The new year is the best time to make your health a priority, and I’m not just talking about maintaining your weight. To look good on the outside, you need to feel good on the inside. Stop eating so much dairy when you know your body can’t process it. Learn how to make healthy meals instead of eating In-N-Out every weeknight. Adopt good wellness habits so you don’t always feel like crap. Your body will thank you!
  8. Make Time For Self-Care. The sad reality is that it gets harder to make time for yourself when you’re in a relationship. It shouldn’t be that way but it is, which is why it’s so important to devote time for yourself while you can. Take out your calendar and block out times throughout the week to treat yourself. You can journal for 30 minutes, schedule a massage, or have a movie night. All that matters is you do something you love with yourself.
  9. Declutter Your Life. You might not think your messy room is impacting you but it is. There’s nothing more annoying than coming home to dirty dishes and piles of clothing. It’s an eyesore but it also adds stress, which is the last thing you need after a long day at work. Declutter your home, your car, and your desk and keep it clean so you can feel less anxious in your own space.
  10. Stop Searching For Love. The less you look, the more likely you are to find love. Sorry, but it’s true.  You can’t expect to meet your soulmate wherever you go, so stop being on the lookout. Don’t put so much time and effort into flirting with every good looking person you see. Not only is it exhausting but it inadvertently lowers your standards. You’re not desperate, so don’t act like it.
Jordan White is a writer based in Scottsdale, Arizona with more than 8 years of experience. She graduated from Northern Arizona University with a degree in Rhetoric and Creative Writing in 2015 and while there, she wrote for The Daily Wildcat. She has since written for sites including FanBread, and, of course, Bolde. You can find about more her on Facebook. She has a passion for giving her audience something to laugh about and despises the heat more than anything.