Why We Need To Remove “Slut” From Our Vocabulary

Slut-shaming isn’t a new concept by any means, but it’s one that’s completely played out. The idea that it’s okay to insult a woman or treat her differently because of who she does or doesn’t sleep with is not only ridiculous, but it’s outright screwed up. The word “slut” has no place in our vocabulary in 2015 (if it ever did to begin with) and it needs to go immediately.

The term “slut” is outdated.

Besides the fact that the premise is prehistoric, the word itself is antiquated and actually means a woman with low standards of cleanliness.  Not sure how we went from “being unclean” to “having many sexual partners.” If we always take a shower in between, what’s the problem?

“Slut-shaming” is redundant. 

The word slut already evokes shame, so you’re just double dipping on the shame. You dipped once, and you dipped again! Why?

Sometimes the pill really is for our periods. 

It does have other benefits besides stopping unwanted pregnancies, like curing our cramps, regulating our raging hormones, and stopping breakouts. And even if we are using it to evade motherhood, you should be calling us smart for avoiding unwanted pregnancies.

It’s misleading. 

The media promotes images of what a woman should look like, but then women are condemned for living up to those standards. The covers of every fashion magazine are doused in scantily clad models, but when a real woman emulates that look, she’s called a skank.

Dating around doesn’t necessarily mean sleeping around. 

Just because you go on lots of dates doesn’t mean you have to be sleeping with all of them. And if you are, go ahead, girl, get yours. Sometimes a dinner is just a dinner, without a side of oral sex.

The reputation is hard to shake. 

How many girls got the slut stigma before they’ve even lost their virginity? A bunch. Unfortunately, no matter how untrue or how much time has passed, the label sticks. Whether you were the first of your friends to have sex, the girl who has had the most amount of partners, or the girl who has only had a few partners but has tried it all, the only thing that makes you different than the virgin is one thing; you’ve had a penis inside your vagina. So what?

Promiscuity doesn’t necessarily equal daddy issues. 

Being experimental doesn’t mean you have low self esteem, abandonment issues, or were sexually abused, contrary to what many self proclaimed therapists may say. Maybe it just means you would rather regret doing something than regret not doing it. Or, I don’t know, you enjoy sex. Gasp!

It’s sexist. 

Men get praised for their sex-capades while we get criminalized. But we also make $.77 on their dollar, so no real surprise there, give that this is the world we’re living in. The majority of us aren’t practicing polygamy, so there’s no reason why men should have multiple partners and we shouldn’t.

We dress for the weather. 

You know, because it’s summer and it’s hot out… not because we’re trying to get laid. Now, if it’s snowing and we’re dressed like Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman, maybe we are trying to get laid.

It perpetuates rape. 

Because it’s obviously the victim’s fault. The same way it would be your fault if you got car-jacked, because you know, you own a car. And if it’s a fancy car with an eye-catching paint job, you were definitely asking for it.

Open mouths don’t equate open legs. 

Just because you’re more open to talking about sex doesn’t mean you are open to having it with every guy you see or partaking in BDSM. And if you are, that’s cool, too.

It’s a girl on girl crime

Other women are the first to go on the attack. We’re quick to call another woman a slut if she is attracting attention from our man, instead of focusing on why he was so easily distracted. If we started respecting each other, men might start respecting us, too.

Sex is healthy

As long as you’re enjoying yourself (and taking care of yourself), there should be no shame in your game.

It’s no one’s business.

And then there’s that. Whatever (or whoever) you do with your body shouldn’t be anyone else’s concern.

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