10 Annoying Things People Need To Stop Saying To Hopeless Romantics

Plenty of us are still holding out for our Prince Charmings, but as hook-up culture and all the things that go with it have increased in popularity, everyone seems to think that it’s impossible to find real romance. Not true, and we’re sick of hearing the same BS over and over again.

  1. Romance doesn’t exist anymore. Who says? Sure, many of us are in happily casual relationships, but that’s nothing new — people have always hooked up, even if there was no Tinder or texting in the old days. It’s annoying to keep hearing about the lack of romance in our world, because it’s impossible that every single relationship is dull and unromantic.
  2. Our heads are in the clouds. Nope, we’re not stupid or silly. We can be smart and love romance, too.
  3. We shouldn’t expect anything. Apparently since romance is dead, we shouldn’t expect the guys we date to make an effort. We should be happy with getting a simple good morning text message or meeting for a beer late on a Friday night. But why can’t we want something more from our love lives?
  4. We’re materialistic. Romance is seen as being about big gestures and physical objects. It’s the bouquet of red roses and boxes of chocolates on Valentine’s Day. It’s steak and red wine by candlelight on a special anniversary. But hopeless romantics aren’t materialistic and we couldn’t care less about roses and candles. We just want a real connection with someone.
  5. Rom-coms are lame and fake. Yes, of course they are, because they’re movies, and movies aren’t real. We can enjoy a good Julia Roberts or Cameron Diaz film because we adore the magic of love stories, not because we think it’s going to happen.
  6. We’re insanely picky. Just because we want romance in our relationships doesn’t mean that we don’t give guys a fair chance. We also have every right as the next girl to be a bit picky — that’s how we end up with the right person.
  7. We think love should be perfect. Just because we adore romance doesn’t mean we don’t know that every relationship has its lows and awful moments. Of course loving someone doesn’t mean you end up together or that you’ll never have a fight. We’re not idiots.
  8. We’re weak. Why is being romantic weak? We can be independent and want romance, too. Those things aren’t mutually exclusive.
  9. We’re annoying. There’s this feeling that liking romance means giving guys a super hard time. Being romantic doesn’t make us bad girlfriends. In fact, it makes us the best girlfriends ever, because we appreciate the small moments and really believe in love. We’re not going to randomly dump someone because we’re afraid of commitment. We’re in it for the long haul.
  10. We’re marriage obsessed. We can be hopeless romantics and hate the idea of getting married, yet somehow people don’t think this is the case. Romance doesn’t have to equal wearing a pretty white dress and professing your love in front of all your friends and family. Romance can look like whatever we want it to, and that’s why although we’re definitely hopeless romantics, there’s not much hopeless about it.
Aya Tsintziras is a freelance lifestyle writer and editor from Toronto, Canada. In addition to writing about dating and relationships for Bolde, she also writes about movies, TV, and video games for ScreenRant and GameRant. She has a Political Science degree from the University of Toronto and a Masters of Journalism from Ryerson University. You can find her on Twitter @ayatsintziras and on Instagram @aya.tsintziras.