10 Brutal Signs He Doesn’t Love You Anymore

If you’ve been with your guy for a while and you’re noticing any of these 10 signs, chances are he doesn’t love you anymore and you should stop waiting around for things to get better. It’s heartbreaking and hard, but leaving now will prevent you from sacrificing yourself to try to resuscitate a dead relationship.

  1. You don’t fight anymore. If the fights used to be really bad (read: toxic) but now you don’t even bother to fight or even argue anymore, you might wonder if things are getting better. Sorry to burst your bubble, but it could actually be that there’s nothing more to fight for.
  2. You don’t do new things together. When you think of the good times you’ve shared with your partner, how far back in your memory files do you have to go? If you can’t remember the last time you and your partner did something new together and had fun, then that’s a bad sign you’re not growing as a couple. There’s nothing worse than a stagnant relationship.
  3. You don’t know where he is half the time. If he’s actually disappearing for big chunks of time and doesn’t even care to let you know what’s up, that’s a bad enough sign. But there’s another way in which he could be disappearing – all the traits you used to like about him are AWOL. He’s become cranky, irritable, and sarcastic with you, like he doesn’t care about your feelings. Who is he these days and why don’t you know?
  4. You don’t connect with his friends. While his friends used to treat you like one of them, lately it feels like they just don’t have time for you. This is usually a sign that the guy’s told them how he’s over you and they don’t want to accidentally slip up to you when you’re around. Even if that’s not the case, the bottom line is that if he’s pulling away from you, it’s only a matter of time before his friends follow his lead.
  5. You can’t ask him about the future. When you bring up how you’d love to go on that skiing holiday next year or how your family has invited you both for an upcoming holiday, he doesn’t seem interested at all. He might just say, “We’ll see” because he can’t commit to any future plans with you.
  6. You can’t get a word out of him. If you’re finding out about his life from social media or mutual friends, he’s actively choosing not to share his latest news and life with you. That’s a huge sign he’s checking out of the relationship and it’s just a matter of time before he tells you it’s over.
  7. You’re the problem (so he says). If the guy doesn’t care about your feelings anymore, he won’t care about criticizing you all he time. Maybe you’re the reason why things are bad or he can’t stand the way you do certain things. Woah, this isn’t cool, but think about his motives. He could be too much of a coward to end things so he’s hoping by treating you badly you’ll do the heavy lifting and leave. Shady.
  8. You’re told he needs space. Hearing these words can feel like a breakup. Why would you guys need time away from you instead of talking to you and trying to make things work? This is a huge sign that you have to step back because he’s pulling away. Honestly, if you’re trying so hard to fix your relationship and all he can do is run away, you have your answer. He’s not the one for you.
  9. You’re being dished the “busy” card. Ah, another clear, brutal sign the guy’s over you is if he can’t seem to make any time in his “busy” schedule for you. Yeah, even though he used to be able to squeeze you into his spare time. He doesn’t want to spend time with you and would rather do other things with other people.
  10. You’re the only one saying “I love you.” If you always used to end conversations or dates with saying “I love you” to each other but lately you’re the only one saying those three words, the message is clear: the guy doesn’t want to say what he no longer feels. It’s time to walk away once and for all.
Giulia Simolo is a writer from Johannesburg, South Africa with a degree in English Language and Literature. She has been working as a journalist for more than a decade, writing for sites including AskMen, Native Interiors, and Live Eco. You can find out more about her on Facebook and LinkedIn, or follow her on Twitter @GiuliaSimolo.