10 Common Fears That Shouldn’t Stop You From Falling In Love

You can’t let fear stop you from falling in love. After all, fears are meant to be conquered. If you let them take over your life, then you’re going to grow to regret it. That’s why you should be brave and bite the bullet. Everyone has these relationship fears, but they shouldn’t stop you from falling in love:

  1. Disappointing him. Don’t insult yourself by wondering if you’re good enough for him. Give yourself some credit, because you’d make an excellent girlfriend.
  2. Becoming your parents. You aren’t your mother. It doesn’t matter if your parents are divorced, or if they’re absolutely miserable while living under the same roof, because their present isn’t your future.
  3. Losing time for your job. Your boyfriend will take up a good chunk of your time, but you’ll still have plenty of hours left to spend working. Your relationship won’t replace your career.
  4. Meeting the right person later on. If you fall in love now, but end up meeting an even better guy ten years down the line, there’s nothing stopping you from switching partners. Divorce was developed for a reason.
  5. Repeating history. Don’t blame your new boyfriend for your old baggage. Your ex is the one who hurt you, so don’t insult your new boyfriend by expecting him to follow in your ex’s footsteps.
  6. Losing that spark. Yes, there will be plenty of days where you two stay in your pajamas and nap on the couch. But you won’t mind those boring days, because you’ll be with the person you love.
  7. Being the one who loves more. When you meet the right man, you won’t question his love for you. You’ll know in your heart that he cares about you just as much as you care about him.
  8. Opening up. It’s terrifying to open up to someone new, but strong relationships require vulnerability. When you find the right man, the scary “adult” conversations won’t seem as scary as you thought they’d be.
  9. Cheating on each other. You need to learn to trust yourself, and you need to learn to trust your boyfriend. If you two are crazy about each other, then remaining loyal shouldn’t be a big problem.
  10. Getting your heart broken. Whenever you fall in love, there’s a chance that your heart will get shattered. It’s a terrifying thought, but it’s a risk that you need to take if you want to be in a genuinely happy, long-term relationship.
Holly Riordan is a writer from Long Island, New York who has authored several science fiction and horror books. A graduate of Stony Brook University, she has spent nearly a decade writing for publications including Thought Catalog, Huffington Post, Teen Vogue, and more. You can find her on Instagram @hollyrio and Twitter @hollyyrio.