10 Creepy Things You’ve Probably Done After A Breakup

Breakups happen, and when they do, we tend to fall apart. Even the most emotionally stolid person will have a moment during a breakup where they cry, the scream, and they bawl. Breakups are incredibly painful, and sometimes, the way we express pain is just a bit over the top. At times, people will just excuse it because you broke up. Other times, though, everyone kind of admits it’s creepy – even if it’s normal. If you recently broke up with someone, you probably have done one of these 10 things.

  1. Facebook stalking your ex. What’s he doing? Does he feel as crappy as you do? Oh, the things we wish we could glean from the almighty Facebook! Facebook stalking an ex is undeniably creepy, but it’s so common that there are even a slew of articles on it. As common as it is, Facebook stalking is not always a good thing for your health, so cut it out.
  2. Asking his friends about what he’s up to. Sometimes, you just have to know what your ex is thinking. Is he going to come back? Is he not? You want someone, anyone, to give you the scoop. Totally understandable.
  3. Planning to exact revenge on them in one way or another. Getting revenge can be funny and awesome, but the truth is that all that focusing, obsession, and craziness is also inherently creepy. Like, really, is that seriously necessary?
  4. Venting details about your life to people who shouldn’t know them. Depending on what you actually blurt out, it can be creepy, sad, or just plain funny. Everyone needs to vent, but the fact is that there are some things that may best be left to a therapist’s chair. If you notice people backing away, looking at you awkwardly, or telling you that you’re crossing boundaries, then you may need to scale back a bit.
  5. Not taking no for an answer. “Come back.” “No.” “Why not?” “Because I’m done, I already told you.” “No you’re not! Let’s talk about this. That’s not a good enough reason.” “Dude, you can’t make me stay.” “Yes I can! You just don’t know what you want.” It happens, we’ve all been there. Sometimes, putting up a fight makes sense. But, if the guy keeps saying no, let him go. Delusion doesn’t look sexy. It looks (and is) psychotically creepy.
  6. Pushing boundaries with people who aren’t interested. This is often a sign of desperation and a sign that you aren’t in your right mind. When you’re so sexually forceful that guys are backing off, you may want to scale it back a bit.
  7. Sniffing your ex’s old belongings. *snuffle snuffle* Oh… it smells just like him….
  8. Obsessing over everything about him. If it were in any other situation, constantly thinking about a guy who isn’t with you would make you look a bit creepy. It’s true that a little bit of obsession is normal at the beginning of a breakup, but the fact is that you will eventually need to let it go.
  9. Watching The Notebook and other romantic movies on repeat. You can’t help it. Sometimes you just need to watch a good ol’ fashioned tearjerker in order to actually get ourselves to express our feelings. Sometimes, it may take the movie on repeat to actually get the job done. Whatever it is, I’m not gonna judge, even if it’s a bit weird.
  10. Trying to pull a crazy stunt to get his attention. Love makes us all go a bit crazy. Maybe you want to try to bring him back by standing outside his window with an ’80s boombox, or maybe you might do something a bit crazier. Try to reign it in if at all possible, because not only is it keeping you from moving on, but it might get you a restraining order.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

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