When you’re single, you have a whole lot of time to think, especially about your relationship status (or lack thereof). You end up thinking about your exes, the fact that you can’t seem to find a great guy to save your life, and the possibility that you may never find love again — and that’s just the beginning. If you’re single AF, chances are you have at least one of these thoughts on a daily basis — I know I do.
- “I’m never going to meet someone.” It’s a thought I pray won’t be true, but worry it’s nothing but the truth. My friends find boyfriends, my coworkers get married and even my younger sister found love before me. Sometimes it feels like I’m the last single girl on earth, or at least the last single girl in my social network. I’m all alone and I worry that’s all I’ll ever be.
- “Social media was built for bragging.” That’s all I ever see these days. People post a picture and write an incredibly sappy caption about how much they love their partner when they could just turn to the person they love (who is most likely sitting right next to them) and tell them this in person. They don’t really want their significant other to know how wonderful they are, though — in reality, they just want everyone else to know how great their life is. That’s called bragging, folks.
- “Is there something wrong with me?” I know I shouldn’t blame myself and that I just “haven’t met the right person yet,” but is that just something people say to comfort those lost souls who are destined to end up alone? Am I the only one who isn’t fully convinced that I shouldn’t just give up and buy a bunch of cats? Seriously, I wish someone would just tell me if something’s wrong with me. I can handle the truth.
- “I just haven’t met the right person yet.” After all the self-doubt, I come to the same conclusion that the people I love tell me — I just haven’t met the right guy get. I have to stop thinking that something’s wrong with me because there isn’t, other than the fact that I can’t seem to find “The One.” Maybe I just don’t know how to play the game. Maybe that’s the reason I can’t find him. But why am I doing all the work? Maybe he should start looking for me.
- “There are plenty of fish in the sea.” Right? So I need to stop thinking about my ex or that guy from the bar who didn’t text me back because those guys will mean nothing when I finally catch the right fish. But seriously, where is that damn fish, though? I’m out there with my fishing pole every damn day and I never catch a keeper. Where are all the good ones hiding?
- “All the good guys are taken.” That’s why I can’t seem to find a good one. That’s why I keep ending up with the jerks in the dating game. Maybe the reason I can’t find the one is because he’s already with someone else. Does that mean I have to settle for a guy who’s just “good enough”? If all the good guys are taken then do I just have to pick from what’s left? I’d rather be alone than do that…
- “Will everyone find love before me?” Everywhere I look, people are finding love without even trying. Then run into Mr. or Ms. Right in the grocery store or magically fall in love at work. They have the best luck, but when it comes to love, I feel like I have no luck at all. Even my jerk ex has found love and I’m still stuck here single. I just have to watch everyone around me pair off two by two and I’m always the odd girl out. The whole damn world is going to find love except for me.
- “I’m ready for Mr. Right.” So can fate just send him my way already? Is there some sort of sign I need to put out to show the world that I’m ready for love? Because I’ll do it. At this point, I’ll do just about anything to fall into the arms of the man I’m meant to spend my life with. I’m 100% ready for love and now I just need the guy. So where is he?
- “I could totally survive on my own.” I don’t want to be forever alone, but if I had to, I could do it. I’m a strong independent woman. It’s 2016. Plenty of women live their lives without ever finding a man. I could be one of those women. I want to find someone, but if it didn’t work out, my life would still have purpose. I want a man, but I don’t need one, and as long as I remember that, I’ll be okay, right?
- “At least I’m not with the wrong guy.” Been there, done that, and I know I at least deserve better than the BS my ex gave me. I want to find a man to love, but I don’t just want someone, I want the right. I want a man who treats me the way I deserve and makes me feel loved every damn day. No matter how long it takes (and it seems to be taking forever), I’m going to hold out for a man who’s worthy of my love. Until then, I guess I’ll just keep being single AF.
