10 Dating Deal Breakers You Might Want to Reconsider

In high school, dating was a lot easier. Everyone you knew lived in the same vicinity, most likely with their parents, and probably had a couple mutual friends and shared some interests with you. Now, the variety of available men is overwhelming. We need a way to weed out a percentage of them without much effort. Enter the dating deal breaker – the things that immediately eliminate a potential date from the pack. Maybe we’re jumping the gun a little bit by passing someone up based on a single characteristic. Are we narrowing the pond TOO much? Here are some things that might be worth overlooking.

  1. He still lives at home. A lot more people are choosing to live at home even after they finish school just so they can pay off some debt and save up for the future. If that’s what he’s doing, then what’s the problem? It may not be ideal, but you can make it work. That being said, if he’s squatting in his mom’s basement rent-free, and has no intention of ever leaving, that’s a totally different story.
  2. He’s around your height. A guy’s height has literally nothing to do with who he is as a person. So what if he’s a little vertically challenged. Quit being so shallow.
  3. He plays video games. Did you really think guys grow out of the video game thing? Because they don’t. He doesn’t understand your love of window shopping for things you can’t afford, so let him have his Grand Theft Auto.
  4. He has a lot of female friends. Why see this as a bad thing? Guys who can be friends with girls are the best kind. Not only will you have a guy who actually understands women, but you’ll have a whole new group of potential friends to bond with.
  5. He kind of sucks at making the first move. Luckily it’s 2015 and you’re more than capable of getting the ball rolling. It’s possible that he’s kind of shy or thinks you’re out of his league, and that’s why he hasn’t approached you. Don’t automatically assume he’s not interested if he doesn’t come to you.
  6. He’s slightly younger than you. Just think — Eva Mendes wouldn’t be the luckiest woman in America right now is she wasn’t willing to date a guy who’s younger than her. That could be you.
  7. He hasn’t finished college. Post-secondary education isn’t necessarily for everyone, and it doesn’t have to be. Lots of people figure out a way to be successful without finishing a four year degree, sinking into debt, and then getting a job that has nothing to do with what they went to school for anyway. If he has a plan, goals, and is motivated to achieve them, he’ll be just fine.
  8. You’re not into what he does for a living. So, you never in a million years pictured yourself dating a guy with a blue collar job like construction. But here is the perfect (and probably in great shape) construction worker right in front of you. Ditch that idea in your head about marrying a guy in finance who wears a suit every day, because a you want a guy who’s happy with his job, no matter what it is.
  9. His fashion sense leaves something to be desired. The great thing about clothes is that they can be changed. Not that you should be trying to change him, but if he’s open to a few suggestions, you could take him from frat guy to casual chic in no time.
  10. He isn’t your usual type. Do you even realize how many great guy you’re let passing you by on a daily basis by being so close-minded? You have to get to know someone before you know if you click, and immediately writing someone off because he isn’t the tall, dark, handsome Prince Charming you thought you’d end up with is just insanity.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.