10 Friends Every Girl Needs When Going Through A Breakup

Guys come and go and when they’re gone, who’s left? Your friends, of course. You’ll find that every single one of them provides a different kind of support when you’re going through this difficult time. These are the friends you absolutely have to have by your side when you’re newly single yet again:

  1. The shoulder to cry on. Oh, it’s going to happen. Don’t be embarrassed. She’s been through it too and you were there for her. You support each other during good times and bad, and right now it just happens to be a rough patch for you. Take her compassion gladly and repay it for her later on.
  2. The fun one. Need to get out of your funk for an evening and forget about it all? This is the friend you call on! She’s always up for a good time, and you can count on her to know all the best spots for whatever type of hang you’re looking for. You’re going to need a break from sadness eventually — take her up on the offer of an awesome night out!
  3. The crap talker. Someday you’ll forgive and forget, but it’s all too fresh at the moment. This friend says all the crappy things about your ex that you’re thinking but don’t want to speak out loud. She justifies the end of your relationship and reminds you how wrong he was for you. It’s not super PC, obviously, but sometimes you just need to be petty for a little while so you feel better.
  4. The spy. This is a friend who somehow still sees your ex or has a connection with him on social media. Let’s be clear, she’s only useful as long as she tells you the bad stuff. You don’t need to hear that he’s lost a bunch of weight or that he has a hot new girlfriend and he’s blissfully happy. Screw that. She’s there to remind you that he’s still a loser or tell you if he looks like crap now.
  5. The realistic one. This is the friend who provides levity. She doesn’t put up with your skewed, rosy memories of the relationship. She reminds you of the realities — all the fights, all the times you complained to her, the ways in which he drove you crazy. She gives you the perspective you can’t find for yourself at the time.
  6. The unsympathetic one. This is the one who pulls you out of your rut and tells you to stop wallowing. She reminds you how wonderful your life is, regardless of whether you’re single or taken. She forces you to get back to business. Life is too short to waste it crying over someone who’s gone and isn’t coming back. It hurts like hell now, but you’ll be okay. She helps you see that.
  7. The guy who offers perspective. Sometimes guy friends can give you insight that girls simply can’t. He still cares about you, but he can gently show you some of the reasons it didn’t work out… from your ex’s point of view. He won’t presume to preach to you, but if you need some clarity, he’s there to provide it. He’s also awesome because he, as a man, can totally vouch that the guy wasn’t good enough for you in the first place!
  8. The mutual friend. This isn’t always a good thing — it can be painful to remain friends when you know that she is also spending time with your ex. It can be helpful in keeping you rational, though, because this is the friend who isn’t necessarily taking your side. She sees both angles and understands more about the demise of the relationship than most others. If you start spiraling into an ex-hating, bitter crazy woman, she’ll pull you back with logic.
  9. The cool parent who lets you vent. Okay, fine, not technically a friend, but sometimes parents can be the best buddies of all. They know you and they love you unconditionally. They understand what you’re going through but also have perspective because they’ve seen you go through your entire life! They tell you what you need to hear, even when you don’t want to hear it. They also give you the support you need when your heart is hurting beyond belief.
  10. The bestie who knows you like no other friend. She’s been by your side through a lot of boyfriends… and almost-boyfriends… and flings. She knows all about the relationship that you just ended, and she basically provides all the components of all the friends above. Even if she doesn’t fulfill all of them, she’s the person you can rely on most besides your family. She reminds you that you deserve the most amazing love and that you shouldn’t settle for anything less.
A former actress who has always loved the art of the written word, Amy is excited to be here sharing her stories! She just completed her first novel, and is also a contributor for Elite Daily, Dirty & Thirty, and Thought Catalog. Amy is the founder of What If Journey and can be found on Twitter @amyhorton18. You can also visit her website at amyhorton.net.