10 Mind-Blowing Realizations You Have When You’re Single By Choice

While there may have been a time when you hated rolling solo and wanted nothing more than to find a nice guy to settle down with, you’re finally in a place where being single isn’t just okay — it’s actually a conscious choice. You’re enjoying life on your own terms, and being in such a positive place comes with a whole lot of amazing realizations.

What does it mean to be single by choice?

There are many single people in the world, but not everyone is happy about that. It’s normal to seek companionship, and there’s nothing wrong with wanting love. Needless to say, most people aren’t single by choice. They simply haven’t met the right person yet.

When you choose to be single, you’re in control of your own narrative. It’s not that you’re anti-love or that you’re against partnership. It’s just that for now, you’re happy on your own. You don’t want to focus on dating or trying to find a partner. Instead, you’re good doing your own thing and focusing on yourself. It may not always be that way, and that’s cool. In the meantime, you’re not really looking for love.

Important realizations you have when you’re happy on your own

  1. You’re picky, and that’s a good thing. You’re not about to settle down into a relationship with the wrong person just so you can call yourself somebody’s girlfriend. You know shacking up with just anybody isn’t going to help you land the love of your life. Until the right person comes along, you’re good with staying solo.
  2. You’re better off alone. Half of people in relationships are unhappy. If they weren’t, the divorce rate wouldn’t be so high. You can be glad that you’re not one of them. You’re not about wasting your precious time on something that isn’t going to last. When you’re single by choice, it’s because you know it’s better that way (at least for now).
  3. There’s nothing wrong with you. Just because you don’t latch on to someone doesn’t make you a leper. You’re embracing the fish-filled sea and choosing wisely. You know deep down that being alone is much better than being with the wrong guy.
  4. You’re too amazing to be with just anyone. You’re smart, funny, beautiful and a million other things. That means you won’t date just anyone. Whoever you eventually choose needs to be on your level. You know that the key to a good relationship is respecting what you deserve and not settling for less.
  5. You don’t need validation from anyone but yourself. You can look in the mirror and see a knockout regardless of whether or not you share your bed with someone at night. You know just how beautiful a person you are, inside and out. Not needing anyone to confirm it is magnificent.
  6. You’re happy on your own. It’s going to take someone as unique and beautiful as a unicorn to come into your life and mess that up. They could make your life that much better, yes, but you’re not willing to risk that for just anyone. You have so many amazing things in your life as-is. Why rush adding anything new?
  7. Being attached doesn’t make you a better person. Just because your (ruder) friends seem to act superior because they have boyfriends and you don’t doesn’t mean you’re less than them. They don’t have something you don’t. They just happened to find love sooner. Your time will come when it’s meant to. And if it doesn’t, you’re cool with that too.
  8. You’re not to be pitied. You don’t feel sorry for yourself, and others shouldn’t either. When they do hit you with a condescending “I’m sorry you’re single” look, just remind them that you’ve decided you deserve the best when it comes to your life-long love.
  9. You don’t need to be completed. You’re already a wonderfully whole person and finding your other half just isn’t necessary. Others may not get that, but hey, it’s your life, not theirs. You’re a complete person all on your own. Anyone you date should be icing on the cake, not half of ther ecipe.
  10. You’re a hard catch. And that’s the way you like it. You’re single by choice, not by necessity. Finding true love isn’t easy so you’re not going to pretend it is by falling for any guy that wants you. You know that it’s hard work finding a forever thing, so staying alone is a way better bet until you do.
Angelica Bottaro has a bachelor’s degree in Psychology from Trent University and an Advanced Diploma in Journalism from Centennial College. She began her career as a freelance writer in 2014, racking up bylines in The Good Men Project, MakeWell, LymeTime, YouQueen, and more. She eventually shifted her focus and began writing about mental health, nutrition, and chronic disease for VeryWell Health.

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