10 Reasons I Adore My Boyfriend — Even Though I Know He’s Not “The One”

When I first met my boyfriend, I really thought he was “The One.” We got along perfectly, he made me laugh, he never made me cry, and he was always there when I needed him. But despite him being the everything I always wanted in a partner, the spark you’re supposed to feel when you meet your soulmate was non-existent. I finally came to terms with the fact that he’s not my soulmate, but this is why I’m happy with him anyway:

  1. He Still Gets Me. Even though he’s not my soulmate, he’s learned to love all of my quips and idiosyncracies. It took him some time to get my humor and to understand my love for reality television, but over time, he’s learned to love me and all my quirks.
  2. He Challenges Me. Our relationship isn’t easy. We have to try harder and work harder to really keep things afloat. This means our romance is anything but smooth sailing, but that’s what makes me love him even more. He’s more of a challenge and I have to put in much more effort than I’ve ever put in for any of my other relationships.
  3. He Makes Me Feel Damn Good. They say being with your soulmate is like being on cloud nine 24/7. Even though I don’t feel this exact same elated feeling, he still makes me feel pretty damn good about myself.
  4. I Don’t Need That Spark to Feel Attraction. I was always on the hunt for that magical spark that every relationship website and dating book talked about. But after meeting my boyfriend, I knew that even without that instant spark I was supposed to feel, I was still attracted to him and grew to love him over time. I don’t need to feel butterflies in my stomach to know that I’m in love.
  5. It Forces Us to Communicate More. Soulmates can look into each other’s eyes and communicate without even uttering a single word. But for us, we have to try harder to make sure we’re speaking the same language. If I’m having a bad day or feeling frustrated, he doesn’t know I’m feeling down until I bring it up, and that’s okay. It forces us to communicate with each other, and it’s helped to strengthen our relationship.
  6. Our Differences Make Our Relationship Unique. We’re complete opposites, and many people are shocked to find out we’re actually a couple. I actually love our differences because it makes our relationship more special. We’re always discovering something new about each other, which keeps us both intrigued and it keeps things interesting.
  7. There’s Nothing Wrong With Being Comfortable. Some may say I’m settling, but I’m actually just really comfortable. Being in a relationship with someone who isn’t my soulmate is much more relaxing. I’m definitely not complacent, I just don’t have that head over heels feeling that usually makes me go completely nuts when I’m in a relationship. With a level head, I’m able to love freely without being obsessive and going completely gaga over him.
  8. I Have a More Realistic View About Our Relationship. At the end of the day, I know he’s not my be-all and end-all. Sure, I would love for our relationship to work out, but if it doesn’t, that’s okay, too. I don’t have a sense of fear or anxiety that one day he may wake up and fall out of love with me. I’m not terrified that he’s the best I’ll ever have and it doesn’t get any better than this, and I know that if our relationship doesn’t work out, I’ll be able to pick up the pieces and move on with confidence.
  9. I Don’t Need Him to Make Me Feel Whole. Some people search their entire lives for a partner who makes them feel whole, but I don’t need him to make me feel complete. Instead of having a soulmate who’s my entire world, my boyfriend is just an added addition to my already fabulous life.
  10. We Both Know We’re Free to Go. At any time, I know he may leave to go search for his real soulmate and that doesn’t bother me at all. I want him to be happy whether he’s with me or not. Of course, our relationship may come to an end one day, but until then, we’re enjoying things the way they are.
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