10 Reasons To Experiment With Your Sexuality

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Having a healthy sex life — not to mention a healthy sexual relationship with yourself even when you’re single — plays an important part in keeping us happy. Sex is a basic biological need and a really pleasurable one at that, but it can be even better if you’re willing to spend some time figuring out what really gets you off. Here’s why you should experiment more with your sexuality:

  1. You should know how to have a damn good orgasm. Even if it’s via solo experimentation, feeling around and trying new things will give you a better idea of what brings you to orgasm. Since everyone’s different, the only way to know for sure what works for you is to play around with yourself… literally.
  2. It gets you more in touch with your sexual needs, wants, and personality. Ignoring your sexual side isn’t doing you any favors. It’s part of you, and you deserve to get to know yourself. Without being in touch with yourself, you won’t be able to figure out what you need in a sex partner to be happy.
  3. Being experimental in bed makes it easier to communicate with your partner. Just like with any other romantic activity, sexual experimentation requires a lot of honesty and communication. By getting more experimental, you’re also learning how to better talk to your sex partner and establish a trusting relationship.
  4. Sexual experimentation can strengthen your relationship. You can do a lot of bonding by experimenting with your sexuality, especially if it’s a first time thing for the both of you. Studies have shown that people who are more sexual with their partners have stronger, longer-lasting relationships.
  5. It’s natural. Too often, we feel like we should be ashamed for having sexual desires. There should be no shame in getting in touch with your sexuality. It’s what humans — as well as just about every other animal — are supposed to do.
  6. A lot of sex acts don’t seem enjoyable until you try them. I speak from experience here. Don’t knock something until you try it. A lot of things that you hear about or see on sex website flicks may seem painful, but actually feel pretty great if they’re done correctly. You might be surprised at what you like.
  7. You might find out you’re not straight. If you’re anything like me, the moment that you realized you were into women was the moment you actually were in bed with one. Most people will not be completely straight or completely gay, so it’s very possible that you might find out something new about your partner’s preferences.
  8. New experiences can also help heal heartbreak. I’ve gotten over many a nasty breakup because of the fact that I decided to go out and get kinky. It’s not for everyone, but for some people, getting into a new kind of sex can make it easier to forget about a past love.
  9. Experimenting still keeps you in control, and that’s really empowering. When you’re making the decision to fool around, that’s your choice. You’re the one who chooses your sex partner, what kind of kink you try out and what your limits are. It’s a major ego boost. It makes you realize how much strength you have. It helps you love your body. In other words, getting into your own sexuality can be the empowering element you need in your life to feel confident in yourself, your dating life, and your body.
  10. Life’s too short for bad sex. And since the only way you can really have good sex is with a lot of experimentation, life’s too short to avoid experimentation.
Ossiana Tepfenhart is a New Jersey based writer and editor with bylines in Mashed, Newsbreak, Good Men Project, YourTango, and many more. She’s also the author of a safe travel guide for LGBTQIA+ people available on Amazon.

She regularly writes on her popular Medium page and posts on TikTok and Instagram @ossianamakescontent.