10 Reasons Men Benefit From Relationships More Than Women

I had a big revelation the other day when my significant other was on a work trip. When he was gone, things seemed… easier. I didn’t have to clean up after him or hear him talk negatively about his day. I love him, but the break was just somewhat refreshing. It made me realize that yes, I like having a partner but also, I’m almost better on my own. Here are 10 reasons men usually benefit more from relationships than women do.

  1. Men always have someone built in to vent to. Guys don’t often talk about stress and gossip with their other guy friends. They should, but they don’t. Women, on the other hand, have plenty of people they can turn to if they need to vent. They’re more likely to talk to their siblings, or best friends, or even coworkers. Women have an easier time forming trustworthy relationships.
  2. They often depend on women to stay in line. Generally, women are able to have more order in their lives than men. Guys are more likely to stay up until 3 am on a work night playing video games, without realizing why this might be a huge mistake later. It’s not that guys are foolish—they’re not—but if they see you upstairs reading before bed, they’ll definitely be motivated to make the adult choice and hang with you instead.
  3. Women typically do most of the cooking and clean. Women can do everything. There are some guys out there who take on the kitchen work, but in most households, women have more of an interest. Some men won’t even learn how to cook because they let their girlfriends take on the responsibility. If they’re single, surely they’ll go back to living on ramen, peanut butter and jelly, and frozen pizza.
  4. A good girlfriend is continuously encouraging. Who’s the person who cheers him on when a promotion is near? It’s you. Women are kind and supportive and enjoy making our partners feel good about themselves. If they have a goal to achieve, their girlfriend is likely the one to built up their confidence.
  5. Men usually don’t keep up with their social groups as well. If you happen to share a friend group, he’s in luck. He’ll be able to hear about what’s happening with his friends through you. Guys text each other, but they often miss key details. By serving as the social coordinator of the relationship, you’re keeping him up to date.
  6. Men need affection. It’s scientifically proven. Sure, you may assume that women need to have the emotional connection and the physical touch, but they actually don’t need it as much as men. ABC News reports that men benefit from cuddles, especially in long-term relationships.
  7. They also want to feel wanted. Confident guys who are single usually enjoy their freedom for a bit. But if women aren’t jumping at them, they’ll start feeling a little insecure. Like everyone, guys want to be wanted. When they have girlfriends and the relationship is decent, they really enjoy the fact that there’s a woman at home who can’t wait to spend time with them. Women, on the other hand, can still find happiness while they’re alone.
  8. Men take pride in the people they date. Women do too, but when a man knows that he’s with a complete catch, he’s not afraid to boast and show off. They like to chat about the fact that they have a girlfriend and showcase the good parts of your relationship. Many men want to have the type of relationship that their friends envy.
  9. There are a lot of things men can’t do but don’t want to admit. These days, it often takes two paychecks to be able to afford rent and living expenses. Prior to, many women were able to stay at home. Your guy isn’t using you for your money but he also knows that if you’re both bringing in a paycheck, both of your qualities of living will go up. He might also need your help when it comes to organization or whether or not certain colors go together.
  10. He feels like successful people are in relationships. Yes, single men are seen as “bachelors” while single women can be put in the unfair category of “cat lady,” but women also know they can be incredibly powerful and successful without a boyfriend or husband. Guys, however, will take years of being single as a personal fail.
Karen Belz is a New Jersey native who is currently living in Maryland. She has a Bachelor’s Degree in Speech Communication with a focus in Broadcasting and Print Media Studies from Millersville University of Pennsylvania. Since graduating, she has written for sites like LittleThings, HelloGiggles, and Scary Mommy and is currently an e-commerce editor at Bustle.

When she's not writing, she enjoys making her phone run out of memory after taking too many photos of her dog. You can find her on Twitter @karenebelz or on Instagram @karenbelz.