10 Reasons NOT To Commit & Enjoy The Dating World Instead

Some people are “the relationship type”. They tend to be serial monogamists who will jump from relationship to relationship with little time in between to appreciate the joys of being single. While that might work for them, it’s not for everyone. A relationship can be hard work, and sometimes all that energy would be better spent somewhere else… like on yourself. There will always be disadvantages to being single, but there’s no point in letting them get you down. Focus on the positive and never settle, because being in a mediocre relationship is 100 times worse than not being in one at all.

  1. You’re too young to settle down. In the US, the average age that women are getting married is about 27, which is an all-time high. There’s just so much to do before you decide to commit to one guy – things like school, career, and figuring out what you actually want to do with your life. Not that you can’t do that and be in a relationship too, but wouldn’t you rather be able to focus 100% on what you want, instead of trying to make it fit with someone else’s needs, too?
  2. Sleeping alone is so much better. Having someone to cuddle up with is nice, but so is being able to sleep in the middle of the bed with all the covers, all the pillows, and all the silence.
  3. You can’t expect a guy to make you happy. The only person who can make you happy is you, and if you haven’t figured out how to do that, chances are a guy will just be a band-aid for a much bigger issue.
  4. You just don’t have the time to devote to a relationship. You career, spending time with your friends, traveling everywhere you’ve always wanted to go… all that takes time and energy. So where exactly do you think you’re going to fit in quality time with a boyfriend?
  5. Dating is fun. It’s also infuriating, frustrating, and completely ridiculous at times. But how do you know when you’ve found your prince if you haven’t have the misfortune of kissing a few frogs first?
  6. You have enough family issues without having to add someone else’s family issues to the mix. Once you commit to someone, you commit to being a part of their family, too. That means double the family functions, and double the family drama.
  7. Single people deal with petty fights a lot less often. Only two people who are in a committed relationship will ever fight about who left the toilet seat up again and whether to get Chinese or Thai for dinner in the same day.
  8. You can have sex with whomever you please. Generally, if you’re in a relationship, you only have one option for sexual partner. That means you won’t ever be able to make the fantasy of what if would be like to see the guy landscaping your neighbor’s backyard naked, become a reality.
  9. You’ll never have to compromise. That means you can get extra mushrooms on your pizza, marathon the latest season of The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, and listen to Britney Spears’ greatest hits in the car without ever having to promise him anything in return.
  10. Think about the break up. Just because you commit to someone doesn’t mean you won’t eventually break up. So you want to be really, really sure that this person is worth it if you’re willing to risk the eventual heartbreak.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.