10 Reasons You Should Spend Way More Time Kissing Your Partner

10 Reasons You Should Spend Way More Time Kissing Your Partner ©iStock/EXTREME-PHOTOGRAPHER

Remember in high school when making out used to be a big deal? Now, it’s probably just a precursor to having sex, so it kind of gets overshadowed by the anticipation of what’s to come. Call me crazy, but if you don’t want to make out with someone, maybe you shouldn’t be having sex with them. How about we all agree to go back to basics and give kissing the love it deserves?

  1. It gives you a chance to relax and get comfortable with each other. Maybe some people are confident enough to get naked immediately, but the rest of us prefer to work up to that. Making out for awhile is a great way to buy some time to decide whether you really want to go any further with this person.
  2. There’s no rush. It’s not a race to see who can go from zero to having sex the fastest. You aren’t trying to beat a world record here. Quickies have their place, but most of the time, you aren’t on the clock, so slow down and enjoy it.
  3. The anticipation is unbeatable. Most of the time women need foreplay to enjoy sex to the fullest, and making out is like foreplay for the foreplay. The more time you spend on each step, the better it’s going to be when you finally get to the main event.
  4. A good kisser might also be good at other things. If he’s good with his tongue during a good solid make out, chances are he’ll know what he’s doing when he heads below the belt.
  5. A bad kiss might be the deal breaker you needed. So you were on the fence about how you felt about this guy. If making out just isn’t doing it for you, you can be pretty confident your clothes will be staying on.
  6. It’s a stress reliever. According to one study, kissing creates a sense of connectedness which releases endorphins that helps fight stress and depression. In other words, it’s pretty hard to be depressed when you’re making out with someone you’re really into.
  7. It makes you feel wanted. A quick kiss might not mean much, but a full on make out is a pretty good indication that he’s into you. Generally guys who are interested in no-strings-attached sex will avoid kissing too much, but if he spends a lot of time on making out, it’s because he wants to spend as much time in your personal space as possible.
  8. You have to have compatible kissing styles. And the only way to figure out if you do is to practice. If he’s the shove his tongue down your throat type, well, at least you’ll know before you get too attached.
  9. It releases tension. You’ve probably spent some time waiting for this kiss and imagining what it would be like when it finally happened. The tension was building and now that you’re finally kissing him, you might as well keep doing it for as long as you can.
  10. Because it’s fun. This may be the most obvious reason of all, but sometimes if you haven’t done it for awhile, you forget how much fun making out can be. Just fantasizing about making out can have the power to turn you on, and we all know the real thing is always better than a daydream.
By day, Courtney is a digital marketing copywriter living in Toronto, Canada. By night, she's a freelance lifestyle writer who, in addition to Bolde.com, contributes regularly to AmongMen.ca, IN Magazine, and SheBlogs Canada. Want to chat about relationships, Stephen King or your favorite true crime podcast/documentary/book? She's on Twitter @courtooo.