10 Reasons You Should Stop Chasing That Guy & Start Chasing Your Dreams

When you feel yourself falling for someone, it can be hard to let go of that feeling. Unfortunately, that urge to be with someone can be so strong that it holds you back from doing the things you’ve always wanted to do. This is why you need to shift your focus from another person and start concentrating on making your dreams a reality:

  1. There will always be more guys. You can find guys of all shapes and sizes out there, offering all different kinds of love. And don’t even get me started on dating in your twenties. You can practically count on a new guy to come around the corner any minute. So unless you think your current guy is your star-crossed lover, don’t give up your dreams just for him.
  2. Your future is about you, not him. Sure, guys can be a big part of your future. But ultimately it’s you that you should be thinking about when you make your decisions. There’s nothing quite like the feeling of knowing that everything you have is all thanks to your own hard work and dedication.
  3. You can’t live your entire life for someone else. Your life is your life. Period. End of story. It isn’t selfish to go after what’s going to make you happy — it’s healthy. I’ve been there, making sacrifices because I didn’t want the other person to have to. But I’m done putting other people first in MY life, and you should be, too.
  4. Choosing your dreams over a guy is high risk, but also high reward. There’s no doubt that it’s risky to chase after your heart’s desire, but in the end, you’ll get so much more. You can live with the nice boy in the nice house and have a perfectly nice life (and you should, if that’s what you really want). Or you can throw caution to the wind and go after your goals. The choice is yours, but choose wisely.
  5. You can always count on your dreams. Unlike a guy (who may or may not be a huge commitment-phobe or momma’s boy), you can always rely on your dreams to stick around. A loving relationship is great, but what about all the amazing accomplishments you’ll get when you chase your dreams instead?
  6. Guys are much more confusing than your goals. You know what you want, plain and simple. You want to write a book or climb Mount Everest? Done. Write that book and do that climb. Boom. Goal achieved. But what about guys? Your dreams are never going to say, “I don’t want to put a label on this,” right?
  7. You’ll feel much more fulfilled. Probably the worst part about living your life for someone else is that you wake up day after day with an empty feeling in your stomach. What do you expect if you aren’t doing something you’re passionate about?
  8. Now is the time to be reckless. There’s no time like the present to go after what you want. You 20s, and 30s are supposed to be full of recklessness and excitement. There’s adventure out there, and you need to chase it. So leave that guy behind and do it!
  9. You’ll always wonder what could have been. Regret is probably my least favorite feeling ever. I hate not knowing what might’ve happened if I had tried a little harder or kept pushing on when I felt like quitting. If you want to live a life free from those nasty regrets, go after what you want wholeheartedly.
  10. You don’t want to end up relying on someone else. The last thing you want is to feel stuck in a relationship because you don’t have anything else. You don’t want to look at your partner and see the life they built for themselves while you have nothing to show for yourself. Creating your own life avoids this issue entirely and helps you become the best version of yourself, with or without a man by your side.
Piper Ryan is a NYC-based writer and matchmaker who works to bring millennials who are sick of dating apps and the bar scene together in an organic and efficient way. To date, she's paired up more than 120 couples, many of whom have gone on to get married. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, Time Out New York, The Cut, and many more.

In addition to runnnig her own business, Piper is passionate about charity work, advocating for vulnerable women and children in her local area and across the country. She is currently working on her first book, a non-fiction collection of stories focusing on female empowerment.